Etiquette and “The Wine Question”

“The hostess who simply does not offer wine to any guest under any circumstances, is using her influence effectively and courageously in the cause of temperance…” — The temperance movement began in the U.S. in the early 1800s. It was created in an attempt to limit drinking alcohol. The movement combined the concern for general social ills with religion and practical health concerns. Done in this manner, temperance was appealing to many in the middle-class who were interested in reform.

The wine question is one that disturbs many a dinner-giving family. Shall wine be served or not, is a growing problem. Society has at last reached the point where it is not considered a breach of good form to serve a dinner without wine. Such a course is sanctioned by the example of many high social leaders; and when it is the result of a temperance principle it has the respect of every diner-out. 

No lady or gentleman will find fault with the absence of wine at his host’s table. It is good form for a host to serve or not serve wine, just as he chooses. Apollinaris can be made to take the place of stronger waters, and no embarrassment follow. The hostess who simply does not offer wine to any guest under any circumstances, is using her influence effectively and courageously in the cause of temperance and in support of Christian principles.— G. H. Sandison in How to Behave and How to Amuse, 1895

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