Gilded Age Dining Etiquette’s Evolution

Above is a Gilded Age, sterling pie server in the “Love Disarmed” pattern, featuring Venus holding Cupid. This was one of the most, if not the most, stunning of the Gilded Age silver patterns, the design was patented in 1899.

At the Modern “Swell” Dinner:

Gilded Age Dining Etiquette’s Evolution

The serving or “place” plates, as they are often designated, are the most beautiful and costly used throughout the entire dinner. Present form permits these to be put at each cover when the table is laid, the plates for the two first courses (oysters and soup) resting upon them. They are then removed, having served their purpose as ornamental.

At the left of the plate is the napkin, within its folds the dinner roll. Directly in front of the plate is the individual salt, now (small as it is) an appointment of great beauty and expense. Sometimes it is a cut glass boat on silver waves, the salt spoon posing as an oar; again a half open crystal rose on a leaf of the wonderful Russian enamel. The water goblet and wine glasses stand at the right and are either grouped or “spiked,” which means placed in a row diagonally out from the plate, beginning with the largest and ending with the tiny glass for cordial. Thus arranged, under artificial light they take up and flash back the rays with great brilliancy, making them very ornamental

It is now the rule to use a fork instead of spoon wherever possible, so that the latter is almost banished from the modern table. Each course, however, requires a particular fork, making it a fine point with the uninitiated to determine between then when laid in a long row beside the cover. From this probably the method now adopted, which saves many mistakes and consequent embarrassment. When the table is laid the fish, meat and entree forks are placed at the left of each cover, at the right the meat knife, soup spoon, a smaller knife and the oyster fork. For all courses which follow the roast, the silver for each is passed on a tray just before it is served.

After the dessert, or “service of sweets,” as it is now termed, after dinner coffee, fruit and finger bowls are brought on. The coffee is put at the right and the finger bowl at the left of the fruit plate, the fruit knife and fork passed on the tray. In England butter is never used at dinner and seldom of late years this side of the water. If served, a tiny pat or ball on an individual butter plate is put in front of each cover.

Besides the foregoing items of correct service, “Table Talk” says as to dinner etiquette: The refusal of wine needs no excuse. A look at the waitress will answer the same purpose as a temperance lecture and will be in better taste. It is bad form to refuse a course, however distasteful it may be. It is courtesy to the hostess to take, taste and trifle with it until removed rather than attract attention by declining it.

The little after dinner coffee spoon, when not in use, is placed at the right of the cup in the saucer. Dip the soup spoon from you in the plate and lift the side toward you (never the point) to the lips if an accident occurs (an overturned glass or the breakage of some piece of glass or china), express regret, but do not overwhelm yourself or the hostess with apologies. – The Napa Daily Journal, 1899

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Etiquette of Service and Soup Plates

“When a soup plate is removed from the service plate the latter is not used for the next course. It is removed when the course is served to make room for the filled plate. That is strict etiquette, although in some families both soup plate and the one beneath it are removed together.” – “Service plates” are also known as “chargers,” “place plates” and “buffet plates” in various hospitality, restaurant and home entertaining and dining circles.

BETTY BRADEEN'S DAILY CHAT

USUALLY questions sent to me demand an impossibly prompt reply, but a few received yesterday can be answered in this column and reach the interested parties early enough to do them some good. The first concerns the head of a rectangular table- it is not at the center of either long side, but at one of the short sides where there is but one plate as a usual thing. I know of no better rule for it than custom, in families where nice points in living receive due attention.

When a soup plate is removed from the service plate the latter is not used for the next course. It is removed when the course is served to make room for the filled plate. That is strict etiquette, although in some families both soup plate and the one beneath it are removed together. There is a strong tendency toward simplicity in the serving of meals save in families where helpers are plentiful. It comes from apartment living, where small quarters entail many sacrifices. There are hundreds of homes where meals are sent up from the cafe and served inn the living room or in a dining-room of a pretentious suite- naturally service under these conditions would be simple.– From the Sacramento Daily Union, 1913

 

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Table Setting – Service Plates

A service plate is a background plate on which other plates are placed. Since its function is largely decorative, it should be as handsome as your circumstances permit. 

Service or “Cover” Plates, Chargers, Place Plates or Lay Plates

A service plate (sometimes called a “place plate” or “lay plate,” and, most appropriately, a “cover plate”), which is about one inch larger than a dinner plate, is used in formal service. A service plate is a background plate on which other plates are placed. Since its function is largely decorative, it should be as handsome as your circumstances permit.

Service plates are usually of beautiful china, though sometimes they are of gold or silver or silver plate or even glass. If they are of china, they do not match the rest of the china in design, since they are usually far more ornate. In advance of the meal, the service plate is set in the center of each cover, one inch, or sometimes two inches, from the edge of the table. No food is served directly on the service plate. On it are placed the plates containing the first courses of the meal, such as fruit, oysters, and soup. It is not removed until it is exchanged for the plate of the first hot course after the soup.

Large service plates are not used for breakfast, and it is usually inconvenient to use them in homes where there is no service, or in homes where the food is served at the table by the hostess or host or both. – From “The American Woman’s Cookbook,” 1951

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More Service Plate Etiquette

Service plates or place plates can easily elevate the look of one’s table. “The service plate remains upon the table until the dish is served and forms a foundation plate for both the cocktail and the soup.” – “Service plates,” “place plates” or “chargers” are now left by some hosts and hostesses, until the dessert course because it is used as a decorative part of the place setting.

Rules for the Service Plate

The first handsome service plate, set at the cover at the beginning of dinner, remains unchanged until it is removed just before the first hot course. The little salpicon or canapé is removed on its own small plate; the oysters on theirs; and if a cold bouillon is served the bouillon cup and saucer are removed together. If the soup is hot, the service plate will be removed before it is served, and the soup plate will stand on a dinner plate, which will be removed with it, and on its removal a second service plate will be slipped into the vacant place, so that in front of the guest there may never be a bare space of tablecloth. This rule of providing a service plate between every course is adhered to only where the hostess has an abundance of these beautiful plates, and wishes to please her guests by their variety. For the ordinary formal dinner one handsome service plate is enough, and this may be left in place only until the service of the meat course.— The Boston Cooking School Magazine, 1920

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Etiquette of Service Plates

 Service Plates, Place Plates or Chargers

The service plate, also called a charger (or “Place Plate”), is between 11 and 14 inches in diameter. It is placed in the center of the place setting and is on the table when diners are seated. Food is never placed directly on the service plate and the guest never moves the service plate (or any plate, for that matter— guests should always leave plates wherever their host or server has placed them).

If soup is to be served, the soup bowl (sometimes with an underliner) is placed on top of the service plate. If an appetizer is served, this plate is also placed on top of the service plate. Service plates may either match the main service china or have a complementary pattern or design. Some are made out of a different material, such as silver, pewter, or brass.

When the appetizer course is finished, the service plate is removed along with the appetizer plate and is immediately replaced by a dinner plate. In her book Miss Manners’ Basic Training: Eating etiquette expert Judith Martin points out how tricky this is to do. Since the diner is never to be without a plate in front of him, the process of removing one plate and replacing it with another must be executed with great skill. “This is done by having the server stand behind the diner, lean to the right to remove the service plate from that side, and then immediately lean to the left to slip in the fresh plate.” Yet another example of how good service is like a well-choreographed dance!

Service plates are not mandatory. Arthur Inch, the dining authority who served as an English butler throughout much of the twentieth century, never used service plates in his fifty years of service at great English estates. If you eschew service plates, use a dinner plate for the purpose instead, because, as etiquette expert Emily Post also reminds us, it is proper to always have a plate in front of the diner. – From “Elements of the Table,” by Lynn Rosen, 2007

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Place Plate Etiquette

Service plates or place plates can easily elevate the look of one’s table. “The service plate remains upon the table until the dish is served and forms a foundation plate for both the cocktail and the soup.” – “Service plates,” “place plates” or “chargers” are now left by some hosts and hostesses, until the dessert course because it is used as a decorative part of the place setting.

A Table Nicety 

Strict regard for the niceties of table setting is an unfailing test of the clever hostess and requires continued observance of the correct laying of all the sterling appointments. An item of particular importance, is the place plate, used today in many smart homes. The etiquette of this piece of sterling need cause no worry in the heart of the inexperienced housewife. She must remember only this; at no time should the guest be left without a plate in front of him. The service plate remains upon the table until the dish is served and forms a foundation plate for both the cocktail and the soup. Like all pieces, it is removed from the left by the maid. In many homes, the place plate is returned and used for the dinner course, for which it is equally appropriate. – Calexico Chronicle, 1928

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