Gilded Age Tourist Etiquette

“… the tourist in a foreign land should be specially careful not to outrage the manners and customs of the country in which he finds himself, nor to flaunt his views and objections in the face of every stranger he meets.”

Above all others, the tourist in a foreign land should be specially careful not to outrage the manners and customs of the country in which he finds himself, nor to flaunt his views and objections in the face of every stranger he meets. Toleration is a sure sign of education and good breeding. 

As a rule, mankind have a tendency to be less cautious about their behavior when in foreign lands than when at home, perhaps because they are under the impression that, as they are among strangers, they may safely relax their good manners. 

Such people should remember that they are, for the time being, representatives of the country to which they belong, and that, in a sense, the reputation of their fellow countrymen is entrusted to their care. Besides, the true gentleman is a gentleman under all circumstances.— From “Rules of Etiquette and Home Culture,” 1890

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The Value of Etiquette to the Poor

One's clothing may be naught but rags and tatters, but if he bear the impress of a gentleman he is honored and respected by all.— Photo source, Twitter from workhouses.org.uk

It is the birthright of an American citizen to rise from the ranks of poverty to the highest gift of the people, if he but possess the ability. Whatever the circumstances, no one likes to admit his poverty. Of all things which make us most easily forget a man's poverty, the practice of good manners is most efficient. One's clothing may be naught but rags and tatters, but if he bear the impress of a gentleman he is honored and respected by all. The graceful air and self-reliant feeling which belong to a well-bred man, are the most effectual antidotes for the stings of poverty. Many a poor man, not only in this but in other lands, has found his way into the society of the best, only on the favor granted because of his manners. One may be poor, yet if he possess good manners and an amiable style in his intercourse with people, his poverty is soon lost amid the good will and friendly feeling created among his associates. Therefore let the young man or the young woman of humble circumstances take courage and set to work at once to acquire a knowledge of the laws and usages of good society.— From “Rules of Etiquette and Home Culture,” 1889

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