Showing posts with label Trick or Treat Etiquette. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Trick or Treat Etiquette. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 25, 2023

Halloween Manners and Safety

Ring the doorbell only once, followed at an appropriate interval by a knock, then leave if there is no answer.
Halloween Tips

Halloween is a festive time for children, but sometimes fun can turn to cruel tricks like when people tamper with treats. That is the criminal act which will generate most of the news stories next Nov. 1, but lots of other dangers will also be around and about that night. A caring parent or guardian can do much to lessen the chances that their child will become a statistic. Let common sense prevail. There is a big difference between fun and vandalism, but to the innocent victim of either, the end result might be traumatic. 

Don’t be pushy or grabby when trick-or-treating, and open and close your visit to each home or business with a greeting and a thank you. Many persons on fixed incomes can’t afford the money it takes to buy the extras needed for the evening. Those persons, often the elderly, need not be embarrassed. Such people should keep their front porch light off. Children and their chaperones will understand. Here are a few tips and hints about costumes, the home, adults accompanying groups of children, where groups should venture, when they should visit and perhaps most important what to do with treats before they are consumed. 

COSTUMES
  • Wear a costume that fits, one that makes it easy for you to walk unhindered, and one in which you can see and be seen. 
  • Don’t wear billowing or flammable costumes. 
  • Use reflective tape on your costume so that people driving cars can see you. 
  • Wear everyday shoes, not poorly fitting “costume” shoes. 
  • A face mask has many hidden dangers. Use makeup if at all possible. If you “must” wear a mask, take it off when crossing a street so as to get a clear view of traffic. 
  • Don’t use flowing, flammable false-hair wigs which can burst into fire. 
  • Stay away from jack-o-lantern candles. 
  • Don’t carry real or make-believe weapons, even if one is appropriate for the attire worn (i.e. pirate with a dagger). 
MANNERS
  • Be quiet and cautious around dogs, even your own pets.
  • Walk on clearly-marked paths or driveways, not on lawns or flower beds. 
  • Ring the doorbell only once, followed at an appropriate interval by a knock, then leave if there is no answer. 
YOUR HOUSE
  • Leave your porch light on as a welcome, and there is no need to be “over” generous in giving out treats. One per child is enough. 
  • Have a party for neighborhood children if you feel so inclined. 
  • Remove porch obstacles from the path of children, or merely to protect against vandals. 
  • If you made a homemade treat to be given out, place it inside a small bag and attach your name. It’s a safety net for the parents of the children, but it will also give those same parents a chance to drop you a “thank you” note. 
COMPANIONS
  • The safest way to go trick-or-treating is with an adult, or a responsible teenager, such as a brother or sister of one of the youngsters. 
  • Know which friends your children will be accompanying on their rounds, and know the path that they are taking in case of an urgent need to contact them. 
WHERE
  • The best place to go trick-or-treating is in a neighborhood that you know. 
  • Travel only on well-lighted streets and, preferably, during daylight hours.
  • Use sidewalks when available, but at other times walk on the left side of the road facing cars. 
  • When crossing the street, do so only at corners, look both ways and observe all signal lights and/or signs. Be alert for cars turning. 
  • Don’t enter a street from between parked cars. 
  • Never enter the home of a stranger. 
TREATS
  • Collect your treats in a light-colored bag appropriate for the size of the child. The bag should have a “reflectorized” design. 
  • DON‘T eat any treat until returning home and having it checked for suspicious signs. Throw away candy not wrapped, or with the wrappers partially opened. 
  • Wash all fruit before eating, and discard all loose popcorn. 
Play it safe this Halloween. Follow these tips, and this special day will be one remembered as a fun time by everyone. — By Floyd Tidwell, Sheriff, SB County, in the Lucerne Valley Leader, 1984


 🍽Etiquette Enthusiast, Maura J. Graber, is the Site Editor for the Etiquipedia© Etiquette Encyclopedia

Saturday, October 30, 2021

‘Trick or Treat’ Etiquette and ASD


Why you may be seeing blue buckets on Halloween
How does one manage kids with sensory issues at Halloween? The best way to prepare a child who is on the spectrum (ASD) for Halloween is to first ask them if they want to do it. They may not want to ‘trick or treat’ but they may want to still be involved in having a costume and being there to receive ‘trick or treaters’ as opposed to door knocking. Make sure you purchase a costume ahead of time to ensure that they get used to the feeling of the fabric and walking in the costume. Also consider buy a costume with a mask so if they decide they don’t want to get into costume they may still decide to wear a mask. If they decide they do want to ‘trick or treat’ then there are a couple of things you can do to help ensure they are properly supported. Social stories are a great way to begin and you can either write your own or at least support the idea of ‘trick or treat’ in reality by planning a route on paper together and then pacing it out before the big night. - Tips from BrisbaneKids.com.au 
Blue jack-o'-lantern treat buckets like this one sold at Walmart may be more in evidence this Halloween as a signal from trick-or-treaters that they are non-verbal or suffer from autism.

What purportedly started as a Facebook post to friends from a mom anxious that her 21-year-old autistic son didn’t get turned away at the door while trick-or-treating is blossoming into a national phenomenon.

Last October, Alicia Plumer posted a photo of a blue jack-o'-lantern treat bucket and the note: “If you see someone who appears to be an adult dressed up to trick or treat this year carrying this blue bucket, he’s our son! His name is BJ & he is autistic. While he has the body of a 21-year-old, he loves Halloween. Please help us keep his spirit alive & happy. ... Spread awareness!”

Her message took the Internet by storm. It has become so widespread that Newsweek addressed the phenomenon in an article this month: “Halloween Blue Bucket Autism Link Explained,” and told of the Louisiana mom’s involvement.

The blue trick-or-treat buckets are not an official symbol of autism and have not been endorsed by national autism organizations, but blue jack-o'-lanterns and pails are sold at Walmart, Target and Spirit Halloween stores and are available on Amazon.com. Amy Munera, president of Autism Society San Diego, thinks word has spread within the autism community. “But I’m not sure the general public is aware of this,” said the San Marcos mom.

She explained that many children with autism are non-verbal and can’t say “trick-or-treat” or “thank you.” Some avoid eye contact and others can’t tolerate wearing masks. Often, too, as youngsters they find Halloween scary and overwhelming and aren’t comfortable trick-or-treating until they become teen-agers or older. They may get turned away from some homes or asked questions they can’t answer. Munera knows parents who make badges, calling cards or special bags with explanatory messages for their trick-or-treaters who faced such issues. 
The pumpkin of a different color idea isn’t without precedent. In 2014, the Teal Pumpkin Project was launched by the Food Allergy Research and Education group to cater to kids with allergies. The group suggested residents set a teal pumpkin on their doorstep as a signal that they have have non-food items such as tiny toys to give to kids with allergies.

Munera bought a teal pumpkin and arms herself with dollar-store items for kids unable to eat the normal Halloween fare. She says the blue bucket idea, though, is a bit controversial among those with autism, and it isn’t for everyone. “Our family is not going to use them,” she said. “We don’t need to broadcast our diagnosis to the world. ... Not everyone is super comfortable with the idea.” — By Diane Bell, Columnist, San Diego Tribune, October 30, 2019


Etiquette Enthusiast, Maura J. Graber, is the Site Editor for the Etiquipedia© Etiquette Encyclopedia