Showing posts with label FDR and Eleanor Roosevelt. Show all posts
Showing posts with label FDR and Eleanor Roosevelt. Show all posts

Friday, October 27, 2023

You’re Judged by Poor Table Manners

“If she can’t even eat a hot dog properly she might crumble crackers in her soup.” – Do you think that one does not need good manners for eating something like a hot dog? Good manners are always required, regardless of what one is eating! In 1939, U.S. President Franklin D. Roosevelt and First Lady Eleanor served hot dogs and beans to King George VI and Queen Elizabeth of England. The King was said to have enjoyed them them and even asked for “seconds!”

Hot dog etiquette is basically the same as sandwich etiquette:
  • Eat it slowly, taking small bites, one at a time. 
  • Eat from one end to the other, holding the hotdog sideways.
  • Chew and swallow before taking another small bite. 
  • Do not “over dress” your hot dog in the bun, so that dressings are falling into your lap or getting on to your face or clothing.
  • Do not talk with your mouth full. 
  • Use a napkin to dab your lips often.

   

People Judge You By Your Table Manners

Jim won’t be seen again with Bertha, that’s certain. It’s a safe bet that any girl who talks with her mouth full has other embarrassing manners, too. If she can't even eat a hot dog properly she might crumble crackers in her soup. Or prop her silverware against the edge of her plate, when she's done instead of laying it neatly across. Or grasp her water goblet around the top rather than by stem and lower part of bowl.

Too bad she ruined this promising relationship just by eating her hot dog incorrectly. Maybe you, too, are misjudged for small etiquette errors. Brush up with the help of an etiquette book which tells how to eat, what implements to use, what to say and do wherever you are at home parties, restaurants, clubs, dining-cars, and other public places. – From the S.A. Journal, 1936

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Thursday, September 22, 2022

Handshakes for a King and Queen

Officials point out that President and Mrs. Roosevelt will be standing in line with the King and Queen when most of their big moments come. And Americans have been shaking their Presidents’ hands for years. Some bow slightly; others don't. Not many men want to appear ludicrous by saying “How-do-you do” to the President, then bowing low and backing off from the King and Queen, only to walk forward again for Mrs. Roosevelt’s hand shake.

British Royalty to be Greeted with Handshakes

WASHINGTON, May 12.- (AP) - The minute fraction of the Nation’s population which actually will meet the King and Queen of Great Britain here next month is getting ready for good old American handshakes.

For weeks, these men and women have been batted back and forth between the curtsy-or-don't, bow-or faint school of thought. The final consensus is that being Americans, they will act as Americans usually do at White House and other formal functions.

Officials point out that President and Mrs. Roosevelt will be standing in line with the King and Queen when most of their big moments come. And Americans have been shaking their Presidents’ hands for years. Some bow slightly; others don't.

Not many men want to appear ludicrous by saying “How-do-you do” to the President, then bowing low and backing off from the King and Queen, only to walk forward again for Mrs. Roosevelt’s hand shake.

The State Department steadfastly has refused to play Emily Post for the American public on royal etiquette. Protocol experts take the attitude that they have no more business dictating how people should behave than they have telling them what to wear.

As a result, most officials plan to follow American customs. The larg est group to be presented will be those invited to the White House musicale after a state dinner for about 100 guests, June 9. Others will be introduced at Union Station. – Oakland Tribune, May 1939


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Wednesday, September 14, 2022

Entertaining Royals and Protocol

“ Prior to arrival of King George VI and Queen Elizabeth, Mrs. Roosevelt says she received thousands of letters from Americans who were biting their fingernails in fear that the Roosevelts would be much too informal in entertaining the Royal visitors. ‘Don't serve hot dogs at the picnic,’ many letters warned. ‘Wouldn't it be advisable to employ a distinguished chef from one of the hotels to take charge of the White House kitchen during the visit of the royal couple?’ asked some of the correspondents.”
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Emily Post once served bar-b-que at an afternoon tea, so Etiquipedia feels that hot dogs can certainly be served nicely to visiting royalty, if done in a similar manner as that shown above. Instead of on paper plates as Eleanor Roosevelt served them, these hot dogs are served in American cut glass, antique celery servers and Gilded Age sterling and gilt, chow chow and piccalilli servers. The Norfolk Manor Piccalilli Relish is imported from England and the Rip Jax Chow Chow relish is a favorite in the American south– a perfect mix reflecting both countries!


Americans advise the Roosevelts as Hosts 

We do not know what advice Emily Post would give, but you can be reasonably sure that your manner is correct when meeting king or commoner if you will “just be natural.”

Prior to arrival of King George VI and Queen Elizabeth, Mrs. Roosevelt says she received thousands of letters from Americans who were biting their fingernails in fear that the Roosevelts would be much too informal in entertaining the Royal visitors.

“Don't serve hot dogs at the picnic,” many letters warned.

“Wouldn't it be advisable to employ a distinguished chef from one of the hotels to take charge of the White House kitchen during the visit of the royal couple?” asked some of the correspondents.

Other letters urged Mrs. Roosevelt to do this and do that, and “don't do this and don't do that.”

All of which proves that the American people, realizing that the occupants of the White House are serving only as official hosts of the people, are eager to entertain these charming visitors in correct and hospitable manner.

This social responsibility is in capable hands, you may be sure. Perhaps we have never had any family in the White House more qualified to entertain royalty, for the Franklin D. Roosevelts have the background of experience which has convinced them that Kings and commoners alike feel more at ease when their hosts are “being natural.”

“How are you? So glad to see you!” said the President of the United States when he met King George at Washington's Union Station.

He could have said stiffly: “Your Majesty, on behalf of the people of the United States I welcome you to Washington.”

What better welcome could a King want than that perfectly natural expression: “So glad to see you!” – Santa Cruz Sentinel, June 10th, 1939


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Sunday, September 11, 2022

Usual Protocol Broken for Royalty

Presidential diplomacy took a unique turn when the Roosevelts entertained the King and Queen of England with hot dogs and beans served on paper plates, even though Americans can pleaded him not to do so! — Hot Dog Au Fait – Since the King and Queen of England ate hot dogs at Hyde Park, there has been a sudden spurt in the sale of the ten-cent delicacies at the New York World’s Fair. They are being consumed at the rate of nearly 60,000 a day.”– National City Star-News, September 1, 1939

Rulers Enjoy Hot Dogs and Picnic Beans
Mrs. Roosevelt Serves Them on Paper Plates in Beautiful Hyde Park Grounds

KING TRIES HOT DOG AND ASKS FOR MORE
And He Drinks Beer With Them
Uses Own Camera to Snap Guests Photographing Him

HYDE PARK, N. Y., June 11. King George VI ate his first hot dog, was chauffeured by the President of the United States, and turned his own hand motion-picture camera against his photographers at a typical Roosevelt picnic party today on the slope of Dutchess Hill, where the Chief Executive's new stone cottage provided an informal backdrop for a high point of the visit of the British sovereigns with the nation’s First Family.

No reporters were present and regular photographers were barred from the party but every one present had a camera, and a detailed report of the party was given afterward by Michael J. McDermott, State Department liaison officer, who told how Mr. Roosevelt drove his own specially equipped automobile up Dutchess Hill from Hyde Park House with the King and Queen as his passengers. 

The King himself clinched the informality of the outing by going swimming with the President in the swimming with the President in the spring-fed tile pool on the lawn of Mrs. Roosevelt’s Val Kill cottage, across the road from the family home. There were no other swimmers, other guests who came from the picnic to have tea at the Val Kill cottage remaining about the lawn.

After the swim the President, accompanied by the King and Queen and his daughter-in-law, Mrs. James Roosevelt, completed the afternoon by motoring down to the Hudson River banks of the Hyde. Park estate to view the first-growth timber in which the Chief Executive takes great pride. The group returned to the family home at 6:10 P. M. to prepare for dinner.

It was disclosed, meanwhile, that the King had gone swimming at the White House with the President on Friday afternoon in the pool in the west wing of the mansion. This occurred after the Friday afternoon tea given on the south lawn of the White House, it was explained. 

The picnic was a big event for all concerned and the King and Queen rounded out a most democratic interlude shaking hands with the retainers of the Roosevelt homestead from the family cook, Miss Mary Campbell, to the keeper of the roads, Frank Drice, who was on hand with nine of his ten children. It would be difficult to imagine a more representative cross section of American democracy than was to be found among the relatives, friends and neighbors of the Roosevelts who received invitations to the picnic.

Nor is it likely that the subjects of the King and Queen will often see their sovereigns in such an informal mood. The King was attired in a dark brown sport coat and dark gray slacks with light colored shirt and four-in-hand tie, while the Queen wore a challis print with a light gray background.

Completing her costume was a gray straw hat with high crown. and straight, narrow brim trimmed in flowers. She wore gray stockings and slippers. There was one large gardenia on her left shoulder, the only ornament with which the Queen minimized the in formality of her attire.

The hundred and fifty persons invited to the picnic had been told not to extend their hands in meeting the King and Queen nor on being presented to the President and Mrs. Roosevelt and his mother. The Royal visitors set the tempo of the afternoon, however, by offering their hands to the first third of those in the reception line and the Roosevelts followed suit. Near the end this was abandoned at the President’s wish in deference to the fatigue which the Royal visitors have undergone on their long trip, and the guests bowed instead when presented.

The President's mother, Mrs. James Roosevelt, mingled freely with all the guests and occasionally left her table on the cottage porch to go down among the trees which grow in profusion in front of the President’s retreat overlooking the Hudson River about three miles from the cast bank. 

Tables Set Up on the Porch

The royal visitors and the other principal guests did not have to hold paper plates in their laps. Tables had been arranged for them about the front porch under its gently sloping Dutch colonial roof. At the first table were seated the President, Queen Elizabeth, Mrs. Herbert H. Lehman and Secretary Morgenthau. 

At the No. 2 table were the King, the President's mother, Governor Lehman and Mrs. Morgenthau. Sir Ronald Lindsay, the British Ambassador, did the honors at the third table, around which sat Mrs. Vincent Astor, Mrs. Henry St. George Tucker, wife of the presiding American Episcopal Bishop, and the Canadian Prime Minister, W. L. Mackenzie King.

Lady Lindsay, wife of the Ambassador; Mrs. Price Collier, sister of the President's mother; Bishop Tucker and Gerald Morgan were at the fourth table. At the next were Mrs. Morgan, Lady Nunburnholme, the chief Lady-in-Waiting to the Queen; the Earl of Eldon, Lord-in-Waiting to the King, and Lydig Hoyt.

Mrs. Myron Taylor was at the sixth table with Mrs. Lydig Hoyt, the Earl of Airlie, Lord Chamberlain, to the Queen, and Lieut. Col. the Hon. Piers W. Legh, equerry to the King.

Lady Katharine Seymour, Lady-in Waiting to the Queen, was at table No. 7 with Mrs. Tracy Dows, Major Henry Hooker, a long-time friend of the Roosevelts, and James Roosevelt, eldest son of the President, whose wife joined her mother-in law, Mrs. Franklin D. Roosevelt, in going from table to table and among the guests on the lawn to see that all were comfortable in their folding chairs.

King Enjoys the Fare

It was with some obvious misgivings that Mr. McDermott first conceded, in answer to questions, that the King had eaten hot dogs at the picnic. He said that it was safe to assume that the King had done so since he had announced that he had been looking forward to the chance of sampling the favorite American snack.

Later it was ascertained that the King not only came back for more hot-dog sandwiches but that he drank beer with them, the beer being served from a tap manned by experts from near-by Poughkeepsie.

Added to the picnic fare were cold ham from various sections of the country, smoked and plain roast turkey, lettuce and tomato salad, soft drinks, hot and iced coffee and iced tea. The orange and lime soda pop seemed the favorite beverage of those who stood or sat about the lawn or amid the shade trees, although a number of guests followed the example of the King and drank beer.

The President was attired in a light gray suit and wore a four-in-hand tie at the party. His mother did not change from the costume she wore at the church services in the morning and appeared at the picnic in the same white figured dress with black background.

The President, accompanied by the Queen in the front seat of his open car, and with Mrs. James Roosevelt beside the King in the rear seat, left Hyde Park House about 1 o’clock, Mrs. Franklin D. Roosevelt had gone on ahead to complete preparations at the cottage. The dusty dirt roads leading up to the Dutchess Hill cottage were alive with army regulars standing at attention as the President’s car passed by. Portable telephones had been posted on trees along the roads to signal the approach of the party.

Entertained by Indians

It was not until a few minutes before 4 o’clock that the party left the Dutchess Hill cottage to again motor down the hill, with the President at the wheel of the first car, to the Val Kill cottage of Mrs. Roosevelt for the tea at which the President and the King found the opportunity for their swim.

A feature of the picnic was a typically American entertainment program at which two native Indians alternately gave interpretative readings on Indian folk lore and the tribal songs of a by-gone age.

Princess Te-Ata did the readings. much to the delight of the royal visitors, and Ish-Ti-Opi American. Indian baritone, gave the songs. Edward Pflegler played the piano, and Kurucks Pahitu, another Indian, the tom-toms. The Indian artists were dressed in full tribal regalia.

Near the end of the party the King noticed many of the guests. training their cameras on him. Apparently on the theory that sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander the King picked up his own hand camera and photographed his photographers. He had been using the camera earlier to take pictures of the Indian entertainers.

Among the happiest guests of the Roosevelts at the picnic were the ten women members of the White House executive staff who were singled out by the President to be introduced to the King and Queen. They included Miss Marguerite Le Hand, his private secretary; Miss Malvina C. Thompson, secretary to Mrs. Roosevelt; Mrs. James M. Helm, White House social secretary; Miss Grace Tully, Miss Roberta Barrows, Miss Louise Hachmeister, Mrs. Mary A. Eben, Miss Toinette Bachelder, Mrs. Dorothy J. Brady and Miss Edith L. Rowley. – The New York Times, June 1939 and the National City Star News, 1939


🍽Etiquette Enthusiast, Maura J. Graber, is the Site Editor for the Etiquipedia© Etiquette Encyclopedia