Table Manners on the Rails

Good manners, evidently! — The finger bowl, according to Pollock, is only one of a number of table refinements popularised by the dining car. Steak knives and a large variety of cutlery and silverware are included in the list. 

Americans Excelled In 1920’s Table Manners

Evolution in the table manners of the nation is laid at the door of the railway dining car, by Allan Pollock, manager of dining car service for Southern Pacific Company. The finger bowl, according to Pollock, is only one of a number of table refinements popularised by the dining car. Steak knives and a large variety of cutlery and silverware are included in the list. 

Equipment of the new $60,000 dining cars, eleven of which have been ordered especially for the company’s new 63 hour trains to the East this Fall will include such novelties as individual silver butter dishes with tiny ice compartments beneath the butter. “Twenty years ago,” says Pollock, “finger bowls were practically unknown in the homes and restaurants of America. People first became accustomed to using them on dining cars. Now few homes are without them. 

“Ten years ago dining car stewards seldom came in from a trip without telling of some passenger who carefully squeezed the segment of lemon into his finger bowl and tossed off the contents, as a sort of after-dinner chaser. It doesn’t happen today. American people now exhibit the best table manners of any nation.”— Eagle Rock Sentinel, 1926

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Etiquette for a Lady Traveling Alone

“If a woman is traveling alone and needs assistance, should a stranger of the male gender offer to aid her, she should feel under no further obligation than In recognizing him beyond a polite bow of thanks.” — Needless to say, if a stranger offers assistance, male or female,  should be expected in return other than a polite show expression of gratitude.

Traveling Alone

This is the season of the year when many women are forced to travel alone, especially on vacation trips, and there are many things that should be known regarding etiquette on such an occasion. If a woman is traveling alone and needs assistance, should a stranger of the male gender offer to aid her, she should feel under no further obligation than in recognizing him beyond a polite bow of thanks. The woman traveling alone should be as unobtrusive as can be possible, as the inexperienced traveler can brand herself in this way. 

If the window next to a woman alone is open and the dust is bothering the person behind, the least she can do is to close it. If she occupies a certain table in the dining-car and finds someone else in her place, she should not protest, but accept the situation graciously. It is not necessary to enter into conversation with the person across the table. On ocean steamers, however, it is not improper for strangers, who have not been introduced, to talk together, unless the traveler is a young girl. – Sacramento Union, 1909

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Etiquette and Railroad Dining Cars

Before, and even after plane travel in the 1950s, traveling by train encouraged a new concept of being “on time,” and new rules and etiquette for one's behavior in shared public spaces. 

The Dining Car steward on the FSP (Friendly Southern Pacific!) told me last weekend that contrary to accepted etiquette, it’s not only proper but good sense to leave your spoon in the coffee cup—if you are on a moving train.

Pullman created the first dining cars on 1870's – “Numberless cultivated Americans traveling in Europe never by any chance speak English or carry English books on railroad trains, as a protection against the other type of American who allows no one to travel in the same compartment and escape conversation. The only way to avoid unwelcome importunities is literally to take refuge in assuming another nationality.” — Emily Post

Even aboard today's diessel-powered streamliners, coffee is apt to slosh a bit. He says it won't, however, if the spoon is left in the cup and it works better if the spoon is turned backwards. But look out for those quick gestures, low over the table. And while on the subject of the FSP, I had the nicest smoothest, on-time ride last Friday. D J Russell, president of the FSP was aboard. –The Desert Sun, 1957

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