Old Mexican Royal Etiquette

The visit of the Empress Elisabeth at the Castello di Miramare in 1861; Charlotte of Belgium (in white dress) welcomes Elisabeth, while her husband Ferdinand Maximilian and his brother Emperor Franz Joseph I, wait on the boat.

Mexican etiquette puts on the newcomer the responsibility of making all the social advances. Visitors to any principal Mexican city, whatever their rank, foreign ministers not excepted, must in solemn print give notice to every family, of any consideration resident in the municipality, that they have arrived and put themselves and their homes at the disposition of the residents. Otherwise, they will receive no social attention whatever.

Intending visitors to that country need to be equipped with this knowledge of the customs prevailing there. The point of etiquette involved is peculiar to that country, having no known existence elsewhere. The people are very kind and hospitable when approached in their own way, and none other is understood or taken any notice of by them. —Red Bluff Daily News, 1905

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Courting Etiquette in 19th C. Mexico

No gentleman is allowed to call upon a lady until after he has been regularly introduced by some intimate friend or relative of the family...

There is probably no country in the world where etiquette is more strictly observed than in Mexico, and the following are some of its peculiarities : The windows of all the residences in Northern, and I might say in all, Mexico are barred with an iron or wooden grating, projecting a few inches toward the sidewalk and forming a sort of balcony. The object of this is to separate all gentlemen not properly introduced and vouched for from meeting the ladies of the house. No gentleman is allowed to call upon a lady until after he has been regularly introduced by some intimate friend or relative of the family, who becomes responsible for the visitor's conduct. This is never done until his character, personal habits, and the standing of his family are known. If the introduction and standing of the party are satisfactory, he is then permitted to call upon the lady of the house, and she can receive him only in the presence of some member of the family or trusted friend, who is expected not to leave the room while the caller is present.

If the caller is a young man and he calls upon a young lady, then her mother or some lady friend of the family is always present, and she does most of the entertaining. When the young man calls three or four times, it is presumed that he knows what he wants, and it is therefore expected that he will at once seek the hand of the lady in marriage, but if he fails to declare his intentions, then the father or the oldest son, if living — if not, then the uncle or some other member of the family— invites the young gentleman to come forward and state the objects of his visits, or discontinue them. The young lady is never allowed to ride or drive alone with the gentlemen ; neither is she allowed to walk upon the street, visit any friend, nor attend a public ball, unless she is accompanied by some member of the family or a trusted lady friend. Neither gentleman or lady is expected to either converse or promenade the street or plaza, or to exchange any but the commonest courtesies.

It is a common sight to see young Mexicans standing before the windows of the houses, with one hand on the window bars, and the other holding the inevitable cigarette, laughing and chatting, as if he were the most privileged of wooers.

After being introduced, the gentleman is always expected to recognize the lady first, and if he fails to do that soon after his introduction, it is understood that he desires to cut her acquaintance. At a public ball, or at a dinner at the house of a friend, then both ladies and gentlemen may dance and converse at pleasure, for then they are in the presence ot mutual friends. If the gentleman desires to form the acquaintance of a lady, or has not been properly introduced and vouched for, then he can only admire her at a distance, send billets doux (love letters), or at least talk to her through the bars of her window, which is only large enough to admit the hand and arm. It is a common sight to see young Mexicans standing before the windows of the houses, with one hand on the window bars, and the other holding the inevitable cigarette, laughing and chatting, as if he were the most privileged of wooers. – From Correspondence Inter-Ocean, 1883

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