Princess Punctilia and Etiquette

Former Danish Princess and future Queen of England, Alexandra, was wife of the Prince of Wales (future King Edward VII) in 1886. ~ The “Princess of Wales” (in Welsh, “Tywysoges Cymru”) is a British courtesy title. It is held by the wife of the “Prince of Wales,” who is, since the 14th century, the heir apparent of the British monarch.

In his entertaining sketches of  “Aristocracy in England,” Adam Badeau says of the Princess of Wales: 

She lives in forms and naturally thinks much of them. Her personal attendants are required to observe every punctilia. She goes through her own part and expects them to do the same. The Royal yacht was once arriving at Cowes with the Prince and Princess aboard, and an immense concourse awaited them at the landing. But the Princess had been seasick all day and was not recovered when the Prince himself came to fetch her to meet the multitude. Her ladies assured his Royal Highness that their mistress was unable to stand. But the excuse could not be accepted ; the people must not be disappointed, and the Princess was decked in her jewels between the paroxysms of sickness and pale and faint, was led out to courtesy and smile to her future subjects. 

If etiquette is this inexorable for the mistress, it is, of course, never relaxed for the maid. A Countess, whose name is well known in America, was in attendance on the Princess at Osborne, when a friend of mine went to call on her. The guest was received in a bedroom, for there was no other place reserved for the Ladies-in-Waiting, and they could not, of course, entertain their friends in the apartments of Royalty. While the two ladies were talking, a summons came for the Countess  The Princess was going to bathe. “But, my dear, you do not bathe because the Princess does?” “Certainly I do.” “But you are not well ; you may be injured.” “Ah! my dear, I am in waiting.” And, as there was but one room, the visitor was obliged to leave, while the Countess dressed to attend the Princess in her bath. – Daily Alta California, 1886

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Manners of Princess Wins Hearts

“The conduct of the Princess of Wales at Cambridge won the hearts of all who came in contact with her, or even looked upon her.”

The Princess Alexandra at Cambridge

Here is a pleasant account of the Princess of Wales’ recent visit to the University town of Cambridge : “The conduct of the Princess of Wales at Cambridge won the hearts of all who came in contact with her, or even looked upon her. ‘The true secret,’ says an observer, ‘lies in the Princess’ simplicity of manner, in the openness and unrestrainedness of her enjoyment, in the freedom with which she shows her delight in the enjoyment and festivity of which she is the centre.’ It is impossible to imagine a more marked contrast than between the Princess and the great ladies of her suite. She seems an impersonation of simplicity, freedom, and capacity for enjoyment, besides their more artificial manners and guinde bearing. I suppose she would be even open to censure by admirers of what is called aristocratic breeding, for want of restrainedness and repose, and of the power of concealing her pleasure. 

“But there is something inexpressibly delightful in this spontaneousness. It seems to tell of her earlier years, of narrow fortunes, simple habits, small state, and scanty pleasures, and one cannot but wish that it may long survive the influence of English Court etiquette, and the freezing fettering, soul-subduing influences of English Court life. An account is given of an under graduate who, in imitation of Raleigh's gallantry to Queen Elizabeth, spread his gown on the pathway for the Princess to walk on. The Princess paused for a moment, as if puzzled and startled by the sudden act of superfluous devotion; but when one of the suite had whispered a word of explanation, it was charming to see how sedulously she lifted her dress to show the dazzled and rather abashed proprietor of the purple toga of Trinity that she was actually setting her foot on the gown, bowing her acknowledgment to him at the same time.” — Los Angeles Star, 1864

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