Showing posts with label Prince of Wales. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Prince of Wales. Show all posts

Friday, January 29, 2021

Properly Addressing a Prince


According to the self-appointed arbiter of Gilded-Age New York society, Ward McAllister, “Sir” and “Ma’am” were the preferred titles for the Prince of Wales and his wife. Above — Albert, Prince of Wales, who later became King George VII, after the death of his mother, Queen Victoria. 



Princely Etiquette

The Prince of Wales is always addressed, even by his intimate friends, as “Sir.” For example, on approaching him, the etiquette is to say, “Sir, Good morning.” This is followed by one’s continually addressing him as “Sir” on every and all other occasions. The Princess is always addressed as “Ma’am.” Ward McAllister tells us so.— Boston Herald, 1895


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Tuesday, September 18, 2018

Etiquette and the Royal Breakfast

 The Prince of Wales’ set recently adopted the idea from the French and all London’s rapidly taking up the custom! – No doubt the Americans who have gone to England to help celebrate the Queen's Jubilee will return imbued with the idea that soup for breakfast is the only proper and polite thing. The custom has long been prevalent in France, and is now being introduced in London.


The Prince’s New Breakfast 
The Prince of Wales Has Recently Set the Fashion 

No doubt the Americans who have gone to England to help celebrate the Queen's Jubilee will return imbued with the idea that soup for breakfast is the only proper and polite thing. The custom has long been prevalent in France, and is now being introduced in London. “At all the first-class cafés in Paris,” says a gentleman recently returned from the other side, “the patrons can get soups of various kinds for breakfast, and a great many Parisians sip soup before putting anything more substantial in their stomachs. In London, two months ago, Henry White, the swell secretary of the American legation, invited me to breakfast, and the first thing on the menu was soup. He told me that the Prince of Wales’ set had recently adopted the idea from the French and that all London was rapidly taking up the custom.” 


Mr. White set the pace for Americans over there, and whether or not he entertains all of his countrymen who are flocking to the Queen’s Jubilee, he can introduce enough of them to this new fad to cause the whole outfit to come back home singing its praises. “It is really one of the most sensible gastronomic innovations I can imagine. Soup, when properly made, is both soothing and stimulating. The over-taxed stomach of the average American needs both to be soothed and stimulated the first thing in the morning. Therefore, I look for the soup idea to become immediately popular when it is brought over by our tourists. Doubtless they will invent a name for it, as the fashionable folk of this country are afraid to risk their standing among the gourmets by eating for breakfast a dish with so plain and vulgar a name as ‘soup’.” – Los Angeles Herald, 1897


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Thursday, February 1, 2018

Etiquette and Royal Tastes

“When the future King Edward VII was visiting the U.S., the most striking thing to him was the prevalence of the eating of oysters, the smell of them, raw, cooking, and cooked, and the sight of the shells, being unpleasant to him...” – For centuries, the royal family was not allowed to eat oysters, crabs, and other shellfish and the future King may not have acquired the taste of oysters. It has always been included in the required etiquette for entertaining Royal family members, not to serve them shellfish. Before scientists understood shellfish allergies and food poisoning, it was advised that the Royal family abstain from shellfish to avoid dying from those common ailments. Nowadays it’s more of a personal preference than a hard rule. For example, Queen Elizabeth avoids shellfish altogether, while Prince Charles will occasionally enjoy a good oyster.
Taste is in the Mouth of the Beholder... And the Country of That Mouth’s Origin

The dish for which Esau sold his birthright — a dish of lentils — was hardly equivalent to one of dried beans. To an epicure, there might have been some excuse for the barter bad it been a choice viand, but little for anything so ordinary as lentils. The flesh pots after which the Israelites longed so much while in Egypt and on their journey through the desert, would hardly be appetizing to their descendants who are now scattered through the lands where gastronomy has become an art. 

Climate, as well as race, has much to do with this. In a warm one, a sober diet of drink and food is more essential than in a cold one. The English in India who refuse to recognize this law, return in a few years with a torpid liver and a yellow complexion. The appetite of the Arab is satisfied with rice, olives, bread, and an occasional meat stew, while the Russian sates himself with greasy food aud strong liquor. If nothing more unctuous is within reach, the peasant will eat a tallow dip with relish. The Italian of Southern Italy can content himself with maccaroni, while the Dutchman, surrounded with water and fog, requires meat, ale and gin, in generous portions. 

According to a medical authority of London, when the Indians, in their long journeys, are seized with hunger, they eat small balls of clay, which remain in the stomach and stop the appetite for many hours. Germans are in the habit of eating uncooked meat in the guise of ham, sausage and fresh meat, for which a physician affirms that many of them have had 50,000 worms in one inch of their flesh, penetrating everywhere, and producing death. The promptings of nature are not much heeded in the United States, for the food which is consumed in Maine is also eaten in Florida. The same pork, salted, cured, and fresh, seen in these two geographical extremes, is also familiar to the inhabitants of California, Indiana, and Delaware. The bills of fare of the restaurants of New Orleans resemble much those of New York, the promise, however, being more faithfully kept in the northern than in the southern city.

Each nation, notwithstanding cable telegrams and rapid steamships, retains certain food characteristics. Some of these, the stranger naturally remarks on, as soon as he comes into the country. When the Prince of Wales was here the most striking thing to him was the prevalence of the eating of oysters, the smell of them, raw, cooking, and cooked, and the sight of the shells, being unpleasant to him. During his sojourn he was always endeavoring to escape from the smell of them, and to this day probably his recollections of America are intimately associated with the testaceous animals. 

The amateur of cooked oysters will affirm, and probably with reason, that the Prince did not know what was good; but that is a matter of opinion. The Prince likely, as most Englishmen are, is fond of eating lettuce and cheese together, which the amateur of cooked oysters would probably dislike as much as the royal guest did his favorite food. According to the newspapers, when another member of a royal family, not long ago, was traveling through the United States, he said his chief objection to the country was that he could not get anything to eat; the remark being made after going through the South and West, and before reaching the metropolis. The hope was held out to him in Philadelphia that in New York he would find compensation for the trials which he had undergone in other parts ot the Union ; but he was skeptical, and counted on little improvement. If a reporter of the press may be credited, he went so far as to say that we were the worst fed ot all civilized peoples. Some weight may be attached to this opinion, as he who gave it has some reputation as a gas tronomer.

To go from royalty to the proletariat, the workingmen's delegates to the Centennial Exhibition complained of the food which was placed belore them by their fellow-workmen here. They were simple toilers, unaccustomed to the delicacies of the table. Thus all classes, from well-fed foreign countries, appear to entertain much the same opinion as regards the American kitchen. Eating a particular kind of food, together with the preparation of it, is so much a matter of custom that we are apt to like that best which we have been accustomed to eat ; hence it is that the foreigner favors his own nourishment and pronounces against ours to the extent that he does. 

Man everywhere is almost as tenacious of the form of his food as is of his religion ; errors and abuses in one being nearly as difficult to eradicate as in the other. But after making do allowance for prejudice in the mind of the foreigner, there is probably foundation for at least a portion of his criticism, entertained as it is in different lands. There is such unanimity on this head that there is warrant for believing, if an international congress of gastronomy were to be organized, that the United States would not hold the rank of some other nations which we are wont to regard as considerably behind this one in general civilization. — Galaxy, 1876


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Tuesday, January 9, 2018

Etiquette and a Royal Wild Heir


Famous for his philandering and partying, Prince Albert, or “Dirtie Bertie” as he was nicknamed, spent much of his time in France and had affairs with the most famous Parisian actresses, courtesans and can-can dancers of the day. Victoria was not amused! –“It is impossible to blame the Queen if she takes deeper and more serious view of the responsibilities of His Royal Highness than His Royal Highness does himself. To her, at any rate, Windsor Castle is not only the home of the English Monarchy, it is the home of a multitude of august and sacred memories. To the Prince of Wales, unaccompanied by the compliant friends of his heart, Windsor would certainly be intolerable, even during the Ascot week. Excitement and society have become necessities of his nature, with which he can submit to an extraordinary amount of fatigue, without which his whole nature seems to instantly collapse...”


Why Queen Victoria Declined to Invite Her Son, Albert, to Visit Windsor
At an age at which the most thoughtless and frivolous of men have a higher notion of obligation than a rigid and mechanical compliance with the dictates of conventional etiquette; when they choose their companions and regulate their ways of life in deference to other considerations than those of personal enjoyment. 

“The Prince of Wales has recently visited the Queen at Osborne, where he took up his residence in the cottage which established custom has consecrated for his use. Her Majesty's subjects may perhaps, feel disposed to ask themselves whether the time has not yet arrived when the heir-apparent should be lodged beneath a royal roof when he happens to be temporarily sojourning at a less distance from the capital than the Isle of Wight— why, in fact, when he is in the immediate neighborhood of Windsor during the Ascot week, Windsor Castle should not receive him, instead of the house –which, as matters are, it is his custom to engage within convenient distance of the course. 


“Certainly, it would be gratifying, not only to the Royal borough of Windsor itself, but to the whole nation, if the King of England that is to be, were to be installed for some days once in the year, as the chief tenent of the ancestral and traditional home of the British Sovereign. The Queen, however, has her reasons for declining to place the Castle at the Prince's disposal ; and it is not difficult to conjecture what those reasons are. As it happens, we are not justified in thinking that the day has yet come when Her Majesty will take a different view of the matter. The point, therefore, now to consider is the course which, things being as they are, the Queen would, with due regard to expediency, adopt.

“It would be idle to pretend to deny that there is any doubt why 
Windsor Castle knows so little of its future proprietor, and in the extremely difficult business the Queen has displayed nothing less or more than that sound judgment and admirable feeling which she never fails to exhibit when she is left to be the arbiter of her own actions. The Prince of Wales is now of an age at which the most thoughtless and frivolous of men have usually contracted some higher notion of obligation than a rigid and mechanical compliance with the dictates of conventional etiquette ; when they have higher ideals of duty than to refrain, if they refrain at all, from indulging the momentary whim because such indulgences would be a violation of the proprieties of an exalted existence ; when they choose their companions and regulate their ways of life in deference to other considerations than those of personal enjoyment. 


“In three months from to-day, the Prince of Wales will have entered upon his thirty-sixth year, and, with the sole exceptions that he has learnt something more about the mysteries of Court etiquette, that he has enlarged his notions of his personal irresponsibility, and that he has become the master of a manner which cannot fail to charm all who are brought into contact with him, he is precisely the same man that he was before he attained his majority subject to the same influences, regulated by the same motives, ready to go through enormous sacrifice of time and comfort to please the public, but unwilling to realize or act upon the truth, that certain petty and irksome responsibilities are the inseparable penalty which he must pay for his position, and must therefore claim his diligent submission. That, it may be said, is a hard lot, and no doubt it is — very hard indeed. The only thing is, that it is inevitable. Even a Prince of Wales is impotent to alter facts, and he must, perforce, accept the situation.

“It is impossible to blame the Queen if she takes deeper and more serious view of the responsibilities of His Royal Highness than His Royal Highness does himself. To her, at any rate, Windsor Castle is not only the home of the English Monarchy, it is the home of a multitude of august and sacred memories. To the Prince of Wales, unaccompanied by the compliant friends of his heart, Windsor would certainly be intolerable, even during the Ascot week. Excitement and society have become necessities of his nature, with which he can submit to an extraordinary amount of fatigue, without which his whole nature seems to instantly collapse. When the Prince of Wales shall have become Albert Edward of England, if years have not even brought the philosophic mind, no one will be able to gainsay him the companionship of his choice. The responsibility will rest absolutely upon himself. 


“At present tbe humors and amenities which would certainly characterize a week at Windsor spent by a young man who is not King of England, and who has merely the best chance of becoming King of England, with his customary satellites, could not be matter that would concern the Prince of Wales alone. The Queen, therefore, is, from her point of view, entirely justified in the course which she adopts. At the same time, it may be impossible that the effects of throwing Windsor Castle open to the Prince of Wales would be beneficial to himself ; and if they were beneficial, they would certainly be gratifying to the English people.” –From the London World, 1876

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Friday, January 5, 2018

Royal Questions of Etiquette

There are certain obstacles in the way, but it is hoped that they may not prove insurmountable. In the first place, a Court official of experience says, as the Prince of Wales represents the King, it would be unusual for him to visit any foreign country officially, except as the guest of that country's Chief of State or its government. King Edward personally is said to be strongly favorable to such a visit, yet he may be slow to establish a precedent which hereafter might lead to trouble or misunderstanding. – The Prince of Wales of 1902, would go on to become King George V, in 1910. He was the only “Emperor of India” to be present at his own Delhi Durbar.

Invitation to the Prince  
London is Surprised and Gratified – Serious Obstacles in the Way of His Acceptance – Questions of Etiquette May Interfere With His Being the Guest of the New York Chamber of Commerce—King Edward is Personally in Favor of the Visit

LONDON, April 7.—The suggestion that the Prince of Wales attend the dedication of the new home of the New York Chamber of Commerce excites the liveliest surprise here, coupled with satisfaction at the indication of good feeling on the part of the leading members of America's industrial community. Undoubtedly, it is hoped in political circles, that the expected invitation will be accepted. Inquiries have elicited the fact that in Royal Court, and official circles, it is recognized that there are certain obstacles in the way, but it is hoped that they may not prove insurmountable. In the first place, a Court official of experience says, as the Prince of Wales represents the King, it would be unusual for him to visit any foreign country officially, except as the guest of that country's Chief of State or its government. King Edward personally is said to be strongly favorable to such a visit, yet he may be slow to establish a precedent which hereafter might lead to trouble or misunderstanding. 


Then, the fact that other European Royal heirs apparent and persons of eminence have been invited, raises questions of etiquette which assume very serious dimensions in the eyes of Royalty and Court functionaries. It has been already arranged that the Prince shall go to India next winter to make a tour of the Empire and to attend the proclaiming of his father Emperor of that dependency. The Court official heretofore mentioned, points out that unless the Prince can visit New York on the way, it will be too great a strain on him to cross the Atlantic and back in the autumn, especially as heavy demands on his, by no means, robust constitution will be made by the Coronation festivities. Anyway, it is a fact that such a visit would be extremely popular here, and it is believed in Court circles that the King, who is well aware of the international advantages of such an interchange of courtesies, will do all in his power to accede to the New York Chamber of Commerce's hospitable invitation. – Los Angeles Herald, 1902

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Edward’s Disciplined Court Etiquette

Crowned King Edward VII in August 1902, the former Prince of Wales threw himself into his new role with energy. His reign restored sparkle to the British Monarchy. Diplomatically skilled, he was the first British Monarch to visit Russia. In 1902, he founded the Order of Merit to reward those who distinguished themselves in science, art or literature. Related to most European royalty and known as the ‘Uncle of Europe’, he was able to assist in foreign policy negotiations. His well-received addresses during his state visit to Paris, helped pave the way for the Anglo-French Entente Cordiale of 1904.

A Change in the Prince

Hidden away in the weekly gossip column of The Birmingham Post, is the following remarkable account of the change which has come over His Royal Highness, the Prince of Wales. “We are all Socialists at heart.” said the Prince of Wales the other day, when talking to a statesman of the old school, who was lamenting the progress of Socialism. “And this conviction renders the outward semblance of Conservatism more and more difficult to maintain.” This feeling on the part of His Royal Highness, combined with the necessity of upholding the old institutions at Court, must have rendered the Prince’s position irksome at times. 


Report declares that he has, for many seasons, been using every endeavor to establish discipline among the ladies and gentlemen of the Court circle by observance of the strict rules of etiquette established in the early part of the present reign. During the long retirement of her Majesty after the great affliction which befell her, the discipline she had established grew somewhat relaxed, and various Court scandals served to point the moral and adorn the tale of the stump orators and brawling demagogues, who remained unmolested in their attacks, until it became difficult to put them down. The Prince of Wales was only awakened to the necessity of assuming the responsibility of his position by his own name being unjustly compromised, and he then resolved to restore the dignity of the Court, which had been suffered to become a prey to the slanders of the Socialistic party. 

He has been for some time pursuing his task, not of restoring, but modifying, the severity of the ancient costumes, so as to render them tolerable both to the Courtiers of the past and those of today. The idea of dispensing with the bare necks and naked shoulders of the ladies frequenting her Majesty’s drawing room seems to be the first step in this direction, and, it is said, emanates from the Prince himself, who, being present at a Court reception at Vienna, was struck with the dignity and propriety of the dresses of the ladies. The Queen was much averse to the change; but the Princess of Wales urged it so earnestly that her Majesty has yielded at length.—Boston Herald, 1889

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Thursday, December 28, 2017

Etiquette and Suitable Royal Brides

Advocates of Anglo-American friendship are rooting for an American bride, and the Prince has doubtless seen plenty of suitable candidates over here, but the wish of the man-on-the-street undoubtedly is for “Our Young Man” to make an English marriage. There are no very rigid Court rules on the subject in England, the consent of the King being sufficient to satisfy etiquette, and the consent of Parliament, which has to be obtained by the heir to the throne... No one counted on him abdicating and marrying Wallis Simpson, a 2-time American divorcee, who was found to be both politically and socially unacceptable as his bride. –  Portrait by Reginald Grenville Eves, c. 1920

High Birth for Prince of Wales’ Bride?

Who is going to be the next Queen of England? This is the puzzle that certainly every woman, and most of the newspapers and male folk in England are trying to solve. For the first time since the matrimonial experiments of bluff King Henry VIII, there is an excellent chance of a “Commoner” mounting the throne of England, and hordes of matchmaking mammas, to say nothing of hundreds of blushing debutantes, who six years ago would have admitted themselves ruled out of the contest, realize that the Imperial Crown is well within their grasp, plus a very presentable Prince Charming. If they can manage to rope in the Prince of Wales. 

Among the many social upheavals caused by the war was not the least striking is the difference it has made to the Prince of Wales. Without a world war, he would certainly have been married —according to plan, and probably before now—to some German, Russian or other Princess. He might have been given a choice of two or three, but his list for selection would have been strictly limited. But with the wiping out of the Russian royal family, and the total eclipse of the German and Austrian dynasties, he has been able to call for a pack of cards for himself and claim a fresh deal. In fact, there are only four Princesses of suitable age left in Europe. They are the Italian Princesses Yolanda and Mafalda, Maire of Rumania and Margaret of Denmark. The Italian candidates are Catholics; perhaps not an insuperable obstacle, but anyway the Italian throne is not regarded as too stable just now, a consideration which will weigh very heavily when the final decision is taken by the powers that arrange royal marriages. 

The Danish Princess Margaret is a prime favorite of Queen-Mother Alexandra’s but there is no indication that the Prince has any views in that direction, while the exponents of High Policy can not see any advantage to Britain in an alliance with poor little bankrupt Rumania. Were King Albert’s daughter five or six years older, High Policy would doubtless win and an Anglo-Belgian alliance consummated, but little Princess Marie is only fourteen, and a Prince of Wales can not wait for her to grow up. Three English Princesses are available, two Teck Princesses and Maud, younger daughter of the late Duke of Fife, but the Tecks have little wealth or prestige, while the greater part of the Fife fortune went with the title to the elder daughter, Princess Alexandra, who married Prince Arthur of Connaught. Hence the matchmakers have turned to the “Old Nobility” of England and right here, the said “Old Nobility” must be kicking itself badly over the fact that it hasn’t more marriageable daughters to offer. 

Taking the three highest ranks, 28 Dukes can only provide fourteen daughters of suitable age, 42 Marquises but fifteen, and 225 Earls a paltry 37 eligible candidates. Three-quarters of these would be automatically ruled out through lack of fortune, personal looks or on account of “entanglements,” divorces, etc., of their parents or near relations, for no scandal must be raked up against the future Queen of England, nor can “dubious” relatives be tolerated. 

Advocates of Anglo-American friendship are rooting for an American bride, and the Prince has doubtless seen plenty of suitable candidates over here, but the wish of the man-on-the-street undoubtedly is for “Our Young Man" to make an English marriage. So far, however, no indication of his choice has been given by the Prince himself, not even the most confirmed matchmaker having detected him showing undue partiality for any particular person. There are no very rigid Court rules on the subject in England, the consent of the King being sufficient to satisfy etiquette, and the consent of Parliament, which has to be obtained by the heir to the throne.

In any event, royal or other wise, Parliament would readily consent to a non-royal bride, and it is generally believed that King George and Queen Mary are desirous of allowing the young Prince to choose for himself. Equally with the Prince of Wales, Princess Mary stands a fine chance of being permitted to take a non-royal husband, for there are no eligible Princes of her own age. One of the main qualifications for a non-royal Princess of Wales, or non-royal husband for Princess Mary, will be a substantial bankroll, for the British royal house is not wealthy. – 
By P. M. Sarl, United Press Staff Correspondent, LONDON. Nov. 7, 1920

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Sunday, April 26, 2015

Etiquette and Royal Manners

Prince Albert, Prince of Wales, later who became King Edward VII of England 
If fine manners are naturally associated with rank, the supposition would be that the higher the rank the finer the manners. It would then follow that the guest of honor, who is also the stranger, would take precedence of all others. It is therefore bewildering to learn that when the Prince of Wales recently gave a dinner to General Grant the distinguished visitor brought up the rear of the procession to the dining-room.  We are but boors in etiquette; yet if the Prince of Wales had been the guest of honor of the President of the United States he would not have been permitted to close the march to dinner; and he would have proceeded, not as Prince, but as guest; for it would be equally true of untitled Mr. Bright or Mr. Gladstone as of a Prince. 
General Grant, who later became the 18th President of the United States
Courtesy is a poor thing if it cannot dispense, upon due occasion with the rigidity of the ceremonial forms. It is rumored that the American minister in England was long absorbed in the task of arranging General Grant's invitations, so that he should not be apparently insulted by being treated at entertainments given in his honor with less consideration than any other guest. This is hardly credible to an unsophisticated American, because he cannot comprehend either an English gentleman should offer or an American gentleman accept such a situation. The rules of really good society, whether titled or untitled, are everywhere the same in regard to certain essential points, and it is a pity if they are violated in the house of Prince.  To invite an untitled man into titled company, upon an occasion of pure ceremony, where titles determine precedence, is to invite him to go behind. If a Prince gives a dinner in honor of an untitled guest, he is bound to honor him chiefly, and invites the company merely to help him render the honor.
The Prince of Wales entertained General Grant at Marlborough House
If, therefore, it be true that the Prince of Wales gave a dinner specially to General Grant and permitted the greater part of the company to proceed him to the table, General Grant should quietly have left the house, and all the more if, as is constantly said, etiquette and forms are real things to European society. For if that be so, the significance of the situation was that an American without a title, however illustrious, however honored at home, and the especial guest of the occasion, is not to be recognized as the equal of titled people.  Probably, if the story be true, General Grant was not troubled; but if English gentlemen are required by etiquette to acquiesce in so flagrant a discourtesy they're greatly to be pitied.— Harpers Magazine, August, 1877 

 

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