The Knife and Fork Problem

“I should say when those fork-and-knife stands, which, as a rule, ought to be used, are on the table, it is certainly improper for the individual to leave his knife and fork upon the plate when passed. If these stands are not used, then etiquette demands that the knife and fork be placed on one side of the plate, so as not to soil the table linen.” — Superb British made, Victorian Silver Plated Dining Table Knife Rest or Cutlery Stand, by W. Howe & Co, circa 1860 

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Questions of Etiquette

“W.P.S.,” who asked through last Sunday Times whether it was proper for a diner to leave his knife and fork on his plate while passing the plate to the head of the table to be replenished, is answered as follows:


“H.V.R.L.” replies: “I should say when those fork-and-knife stands, which, as a rule, ought to be used, are on the table, it is certainly improper for the individual to leave his knife and fork upon the plate when passed. If these stands are not used, then etiquette demands that the knife and fork be placed on one side of the plate, so as not to soil the table linen.”


“Kathleen Bawn” thinks that “the knife and fork should never, under any circumstances, be left on the plate. Many commit this error, but, because it is customary among a certain class, it is not by any means correct. Customs make laws to a certain extent, but not in this instance.”


“H.L.I.” says: “It is not consistent with table etiquette to leave his knife and fork upon his plate when the latter is passed to be replenished. It is annoying to the host. The knife and fork occupy where food is to be served, and they should be held in his hand while the waiter takes and returns his plate.” — The New York Times, July 1880

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