Social Graces from Mrs. Adams

When making introductions one should remember that a man is always presented to a woman, a younger person to an older one and an unmarried woman to a matron. When introducing friends a good form to use is. “Miss Brown, let me present Mr. Jones.” If introducing a relative one should say, “Miss Black, may I present my cousin. Mr. White?”

Introducing Friend or Relative

Dear Mrs. Adams: 1. What is the proper way to introduce a friend or relative? 

2. In congratulating a bride or bride- groom-to-be, what must one say? 

3. What is an appropriate gift for a groom to present to his bride-to-be? 

4. On being invited to dine, how long before dinner should one arrange to arrive? When leaving, must one bid only the hostess or all the guests good-bye? –A Green One

1. When making introductions one should remember that a man is always presented to a woman, a younger person to an older one and an unmarried woman to a matron. When introducing friends a good form to use is. “Miss Brown, let me present Mr. Jones.” If introducing a relative one should say, “Miss Black, may I present my cousin. Mr. White?”

2. To the bride-to-be, one may say, “Let me offer hearty good wishes for your future happiness.” To the groom-to-be, one may say, “Accept my sincerest congratulations.” 

3. A piece of jewelry is the most appropriate gift. 

4. A dinner guest is to arrive at the hostess' home at the hour named in her invitation. When leaving, the guest politely thanks the hostess for the hospitality enjoyed. If there are few friends at the dinner, the person leaving may bid them all good evening; but if there are many guests present, she should bid a formal farewell to those friends nearest her.

Mother Insists

Dear Mrs. Adams: I am a girl of 15, and my mother insists that I shall go with a man of 26. I do not care for him. She compelled me to accept a gold watch from him as a Christmas present. What would you advise me to do in such a case? –Anxious 

While your mother may prove to be your best friend, I cannot help suggesting, in this case that you accept the young man's attentions, but treat him with indifference. He will soon understand that his company is not desired, and will not force his attentions on you. — San Francisco Call, 1910

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