In-Law Problem and Table Etiquette
Aired by Gl Wife
TOKYO, Dec. 14—INS—Thirty months in the United States have given the Japanese wife of an American marine some new notions about mothers-in-law. “Don't be afraid of them.” she says. “Talk back to them.” That’s the advice of Mrs. Tatsuko Chambers after spending two-and-one-half years in Denver, Colorado, with her husband, Marine Sgt. Cleo M. Chambers. Mrs. Chambers told a group of Japanese girls married to American servicemen and attending the Yokosuka Brides’ School near Tokyo:
“In Japan a woman cannot talk back to her husband’s mother, even if the mother-in-law is wrong. But in America, the Japanese bride must learn not to be afraid to talk back to her mother-in-law.” Mrs. Chambers also offered the brides a tip on how not to go hungry at American dinner tables : “In Japan, it is considered polite to refuse an offer of food at the dining table at least once. If you refuse food when an American offers it, it won’t be offered again.” – Shin Nichibei, 1957
Canadian Red Cross Women Head for Japan to Educate Brides of Canada Life
VANCOUVER. — Five social workers of the Canadian Red Cross left Vancouver last week for Tokyo where they take on the task of educating 13 Japanese brides of Canadian servicemen who are expected to come to Canada soon. As part of their work with the Canadian armed forces in Japan, the five women will teach the brides “the Canadian attitude to life, etiquette, dress and humor” in preparation for life in Canada.
Their visit to Japan for the next year is being undertaken to fill in the need for “something Canadian” as requested by Canadian troops in Korea. Knowing that Japan will consider Canadians the ambassadors of goodwill, one of them said: “None of us speaks Japanese yet. We have little need of it because most of our work will be with our own forces and with young brides and their Canadian husbands. But we will probably have a stab at it, anyway.” – Shin Nichibei, 1952
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