Cruise Ship Conversation Manners

“Those who wish to keep shipboard acquaintanceship at that level may then do so, while others may go on to develop passionate attachments in which the exchange of personal information may be staggering, and some of it may even be true.” — Passengers quietly perusing the midnight buffet on a Viking Cruise Line ship, circa mid-1990’s.

Dear Miss Manners: I find an unfortunate number of cruise passengers who seem to think that while on board, they can forget the etiquette of polite conversation. One should not ask personal questions, such as about occupations, exact addresses and age. Accepted and desirable conversations, in addition to the weather, would include ports to be visited and the selection of shore tours.

It is OK to observe that one has previously been on this cruise ship, but not how many times. Taboo is discussion of other cruise ships, because it always results in one-upmanship. Please advise people not to reiterate the trials and tribulations experienced in reaching this and other cruise ships.

Gentle Reader: A young lady of Miss Manners' acquaintance was asked "Where are you from?" so many times on her first cruise that she proposed saving her breath by wearing a sign reading, "I'm from Chicago; OK?"

Miss Manners sympathized, but one does, as you say, need neutral conversation openers. Those who wish to keep shipboard acquaintanceship at that level may then do so, while others may go on to develop passionate attachments in which the exchange of personal information may be staggering, and some of it may even be true.

Yet Miss Manners is not nearly so strict as you as to topics of conversation. Travel adventures seem to her exactly the desirable common point from which to launch conversation on trips.

Bragging and being boring are always rude, but she fails to understand why it would be immodest to say, "We love this ship; it's our sixth time on board" or "We're so happy to be here after having been marooned on a desert island without any books except a tipping guide, because we couldn't agree beforehand on what to take." – By Judith Martin, (aka Miss Manners), 1996

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