A Brief 1940’s Dining Q & A

Public domain image of American author, teacher and founder of the Palmer Memorial Institute in North Carolina, Charlotte Hawkins Brown, wrote the etiquette book, “The Correct Thing to Do — to Say — to Wear,” published in 1940.

Dining Etiquette Questions & Answers with Charlotte Hawkins Brown

1. Should the salad be eaten with the main course or afterwards?

     Answer: The salad may be eaten with the main course or afterwards, according to the plan of the hostess. She will show by her service or “lead” when it should be eaten.

2. How should pickles be eaten?

      Answer: Pickles should be eaten with the fork from the plate.

3. Should a paper napkin be used the same as a cloth napkin?

     Answer: No, not exactly. The napkin should be opened with great care being exercised to keep it on the lap throughout the meal. Sticking it in the neck of the blouse or top of the vest is very bad form. When the meal is finished, it should be crushed slightly and placed on the table to be destroyed by the waitress.

4. How should a regular drinking glass be held?

     Answer: The glass should be held near the bottom with the fingers on the outside of the glass, not under it. Never have the little finger sticking out.

5. Is it wrong to tip the gravy bowl?

    Answer: Yes, it is wrong to tip any dish to get the last drop. It gives the appearance that enough has not been provided. Ask the waitress to refill the bowl. 

From Charlotte Hawkins Brown in The Correct Thing to Do — to Say — to Wear, 1940

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