Hollywood Nixes Royal Etiquette

Grace Kelly (1929 –1982) was an American actress who was Princess of Monaco as the wife of Prince Rainier III _ According to unofficialroyalty.com, “Members of the Sovereign Family must have the consent of the Sovereign Prince to marry. Those who marry without consent lose succession rights for themselves and their descendants. If a family member marries without the consent of the Sovereign Prince and no children are born and the marriage is dissolved, then that person will regain succession rights.”
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Grace, Rainier Announce Two Wedding Dates

Grace Kelly and Prince Rainier of Monaco Monday set not one but two wedding dates-April 18 and April 19-for what could be the biggest rites since Queen Elizabeth married Prince Philip. Monaco, the tiny Mediterranean principality over which the Prince rules, will be the locale. The two dates were necessary to conform to local custom of a civil and a religious ceremony. The civil rites come first. The Bishop of Monaco will celebrate the Roman Catholic nuptial mass.

The announcement came from Miss Kelly's secretary in a manner contrary to both Royal and Hollywood custom. For the Prince, it marked a bow to democracy in following the accepted American etiquette of allowing the bride to make the first announcement.

TERSE PHONE CALL

It also marked the first time in Hollywood history that a reigning movie queen didn't announce big news via her studio or press agent. The announcement came from Nadia Woods, secretary to the actress, in a terse phone call to individual members of the press. She said only: "Miss Kelly and Prince Rainier want to announce the date of their marriage as April 18 and 19. The rites will be held in Monaco with the civil ceremony on the 18th and the religious ceremony the following day.

"There are no other details at this time, other than the setting of the date." Miss Kelly currently is hurrying to finish "High Society" with Bing Crosby and Frank Sinatra. It's the musical remake of "The Philadelphia Story." The picture is the Oscar-winning dramatic actress' first musical and also her singing debut on the screen.

HER LAST PICTURE?

She will do her own singing in the picture that may well be her last. Her Prince says marriage will end her career. MGM sources report no definite decision has been forthcoming on her retirement alter marriage.

She is due to finish the picture by March 10 and will take off for her family home in Philadelphia. Her trousseau is already in the works, the creation of MGM designer Helen Rose. On April 4, she will sail via steamship for Monaco, not ordinarily a port of call for liners but several companies already have offered to make a special stop for her.

The Prince, now living in a rented Bel-Air mansion, will precede her by several weeks. The two have been dating quietly, mostly at dinners in the actress' Pacific Palisades home.

So far, the Prince has not visited Miss Kelly at work despite the urgent pleas of other cast members. Celeste Holm told her: "We'll make him comfortable. We'll just stare at him." – Hollywood (AP) February, 1956

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Teen Etiquette Topics, 1956

Q. I have been going with a boy who calls me up every night. He tells me he likes me, but in school he ignores me and flirts with other girls. Should I tell him I'm jealous?

Since dating is so very important to teenagers, here are some questions on that subject.

Q. I am 18 years old. My friends say that I am very pretty but that I am too quiet and never say anything funnyCan you make any suggestions? — M.M., Radom, Ill.

A. Try to cultivate your sense of humor so that you will enjoy the amusing things other people say. Not everyone can create humor. But if you look alive and receptive, your friends will like you and find you good company.

Q. Is it proper for a girl of 13 to play different kinds of ball games with boys several years older? — B.S., Phenix City, Ala.

A. It seems all right if grownups are present.

Q. I have been going with a boy who calls me up every night. He tells me he likes me, but in school he ignores me and flirts with other girls. Should I tell him I'm jealous?— L.P., Chicago, III.

A. Don't tell him you're jealous. If he calls you every night, you probably have the inside track. You'll have to wait until he is ready to acknowledge you as his girl in school. In the meantime, why not see some of the other boys?

Q. I am 16. I compliment girls quite often in school. When I do, they say "Thank you." What should I say?— S.G., New Britain, Conn.

A. Nothing.

Q. I like my girlfriend's boyfriend and he likes me. I want to go out with the boy but I still want Joan as a friend. What should I do?-— B.T., Mineral Ridge, Ohio.

A. It is very important for a girl to be liked by other girls in her school. The kind of boy-snatching that you are contemplating would make girls dislike you. Keep the friendship of your own sex and you'll have a better chance at happiness with boys as well.

Q. I am 14 and go to quite a few parties, but never enjoy them. What do you think I can do to have a good time?— J.L., Stratford, Conn. 

A. Seem to have a good time. This is a great compliment to your hostess and the boy you are with. If you start out to a party feeling that you are going to have a dull time and that you are dull yourself, you usually bring both of these undesired things upon yourself.— By Amy Vanderbilt in Parade Magazine, 1956

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Amy Vanderbilt Teen Etiquette, 1956

Q. At 13, is it all right for me to like a boy shorter than I? Am I too young to go steady?… Amy answers! ~ Group of teen boys at Knott’s Berry Farm in California, circa early 1950’s 

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A large percentage of my mail comes from the sub-teen group I sincerely sympathize with the young girl who suddenly becomes really interested in her future dating possibilities and gets herself into a state of needless anxiety about her personal appearance. Here are three letters from this age group.

Q. I am a 12-year-old girl with three problems: 1) I am overweight and my mother won't let me go to a doctor. 2) Most of my girl friends have clothes that are bought ready- made; I have none. 3) My father won't let me go to school dances.— CT., Baton Rouge, La.

AIn your own opinion you may be overweight because your friends are thinner than you are, but in the eyes of a doctor you may not be. At your age it is considered wise to be 10 pounds over the normal. If you are a lot more than that, you should make a sincere effort to cut down on sweets and starches as well as fats. You need plenty of bone-building protein and calcium.

If clothes that are bought in a store seem so important to you, find some way of earning extra money to acquire them. However, many girls are very beautifully dressed by mothers who sew well — and you may be one.

Give your father time in the matter of dances. He probably thinks that you seem to be growing up too fast.

Q. I am a 12-year-old girl and my mother thinks I am too young to go out on dates in the afternoon. May we have your opinion? — D.S., St. Petersburg, Fla.

A. What other nice girls in your own group do is usually a fairly good criterion of what your parents can safely let you do. But the decision must rest with the parents; they know the circumstances and can judge the company you keep.

Q. At 13, is it all right for me to like a boy shorter than I? Am I too young to go steady? — L.R., Chicago, Ill.

A. Why shouldn't you like a boy shorter than yourself? Yes. 13-year-olds are much too young to go steady. — By Amy Vanderbilt in Parade Magazine, 1956

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Global Kissing Etiquette

It may come as a surprise, but not all cultures think of kissing as romantic. In the 1400s, when Europeans first embarked on their path of conquest and exploration, kissing was unknown in many parts of the world. The romantic kiss as we know it today was first popularized by the ancient Romans. Bryant calls the Romans “the ‘kissingest’ culture that ever existed.” They puckered up on every conceivable occasion, he says, and it even became stylish to perfume one's mouth with Oriental spices to enhance the pleasure of a kiss. The Chinese found the whole idea of public kissing gross. And when members of an African tribe spotted two Europeans in a passionate kiss, they wondered what could be wrong with those people.

A History of Osculation

If you find yourself in the mood to smooch your sweetie, buss your lover, peck your sister on the cheek or just indiscriminately air-smack any celebrities you happen to pass on the street, you want to consider this: A kiss, despite what the song says, is most definitely not just a kiss.

In fact, it can be just about anything. Americans kiss to greet each other or to say farewell, to congratulate or console. We kiss lovers on the lips, infants on the head and children on their cuts and bruises.

Indeed, kissing plays many roles in human affairs; our folk- lore, rituals and everyday behavior brim with examples. There was the traitorous kiss of Judas (from whence the phrase "kiss of death"). Gamblers kiss their cards. to deflect divine wrath (sort of the flip side of the pious kissing Bibles, crosses or Torah scrolls). Patriots kiss their native soil. Irish kiss the Blarney Stone (for the luck of the Blarney). Politicians kiss babies (more blarney). Even princesses kiss frogs to turn them into princes.

On a personal level, note that the whys and hows of kissing can have less to do with romance or friendship than with cultural and historical forces. Frenchmen, for instance, will kiss you twice, once on each cheek; Belgians, three times. Chinese don't do it in public, and Nigerians don't do it at all. Austrians kiss on the hand; Indonesians kiss only the cheek. In Mediterranean and Latin countries men traditionally kiss each other; not so in America.

Theories on the earliest smooch range from a need for oral contact that begins in infancy – when the tactile satisfaction is enhanced by the reward of obtaining mother's milk – to an attempt by prehistoric men and women to demonstrate that they didn't intend to bite. Another explanation is that kissing began when primitive humans licked each other's faces for salt.

If you're more romantically inclined, it's also thought that ancient lovers believed a kiss would literally unite their souls, because the spirit was said to be carried in one's breath. The heart, as an age-old symbol of love, may symbolize pursed red lips. However, don't be too quick to assume that humans invented kissing. Even chimpanzees instinctually press warm wet lips against your neck when they're glad to see you.

The first recorded kiss happened in India more than 4,000 years ago. A passage in the Rig-Veda describes people pressing their noses together. And, according to Vaughn M. Bryant, chairman of the Anthropology Department at Texas A&M University, it's not hard to figure out what happened next. Bryant, who lectures on the origin of kissing, surmises! that while nose to nose with another, "somebody must have slipped and found that the lips were a lot more sensitive than the nose."

The romantic kiss as we know it today was first popularized by the ancient Romans. Bryant calls the Romans "the ‘kissingest’ culture that ever existed." They puckered up on every conceivable occasion, he says, and it even became stylish to perfume one's mouth with Oriental spices to enhance the pleasure of a kiss. Casual public kissing grew to such outrageous proportions in those days, in fact, that Emperor Tiberius banned what we now call the social kiss. (As has Miss Manners; more on her later.)

People didn't kiss simply for pleasure in ancient Persia, where manners of kissing reflected class! distinctions. Equals could kiss each other on the lips, and those of slightly different status would kiss on the cheek. The lowest subordinate had to kiss at a level symbolically low enough to match their inferiority; this usually meant kissing the superior's foot. For those ranking slightly better it was permissible to kiss the garment hem or knee of the upper-class person. For the lowest abject prisoner even kissing a foot was considered too good, and he or she was forced to kiss the ground near the nobility's shoes. From such practices come the phrases, "kiss the dirt," "bite the dust," and "boot-licker."

In Renaissance Europe these kinds of kissing protocols were replaced by bowing, curtsying and the doffing of hats-apparently a consequence of rising fears about the spread of the Great Plague. In a similar vein another theory holds that the handshake evolved as a diluted version of the hand kiss, a popular European gesture of respect to women. As the kissing of hands became more stylized, a gentleman's pucker would relax to the point that his mouth might only graze the back of the lady's hand or even miss altogether. As the custom became antiquated the men would merely take the lady's hand while bowing slightly, sort of a weak handshake.

Though Americans take an inordinate: amount of pleasure from kissing, the passion doesn't seem to be universal. Many people express intimacy in other ways. For example, the kiss at the close of the American wedding ceremony is regarded as the standard symbol of love and sexual union. But not at a Cambodian marriage rite; there, the groom will touch his nose against the bride's cheek. In Korea, where Confucianist tenets deemphasize physical intimacy, the bride and groom bow to each other and then to their guests to symbolize their new bond. Traditional Chinese and Japanese consider it a breach of decorum to kiss in public – even at weddings – as do Black Muslims.

Elizabeth Eames, a lecturer in social anthropology at Haverford College in Haverford, Pa., recalls her three years in Nigeria, where she says, kissing is just short of lunatic behavior. "Kissing is like someone tearing their clothes off on a busy street here," she says. "West Africans get grossed out when they see tourists kissing. To them it's inappropriate-comparable to intercourse in public They'll away from the kissing couple, make faces or point." West Africans don't kiss at all, Eames says. In greeting, a girl will kneel and a boy will touch his hand to the ground or lie prostrate. Best friends might spit into each other's hand and shake, symbolizing that a piece of you goes to the other person. "The only time you'll see a kiss in this part of Africa is as a sign of great respect to an old grandmother," Eames says. "A younger person might press lips against a grandmother's chest to show she's the mother who has fed them all."

Among Eskimos nose-rubbing replaces mouth contact. Indonesia is another place where not even lovers kiss on the mouth, at least not where people can see them. Variations elsewhere include nose-pressing, nuzzling or placing one's lips close to a partner's face and inhaling. In some cases these non-kissing cultures harbor mythical or spiritual fears about exchanging saliva, because it is considered to be part of the soul.

In East Africa the accepted way to show affection is to tickle the other person's stomach. So why are Americans so kissy? Michael Ascher, a psychologist and professor at Temple University Hospital in Philadelphia, blames two influences: politicians and entertainers. When show-business people kiss, they're close friends, he says, with the less popular person wanting to show the TV audience that he or she is Johnny Carson's kissin' cousin. Politicians, he says, peck their spouses in public to present an image of family solidarity.

Andrea Weiss, assistant professor of psychology at Drexel University in Philadelphia, agrees that public kissing is often more a social statement than a gesture of affection. "We kiss to convey an impression to others that we're getting along and that we care about each other even if it's not true privately. We learn we're supposed to do this from the media-television, movies and reading – and by observing others."

"Thirty years ago you kissed people you were friendly with," but nowadays, Ascher complains, "kissing is a false affectation dispersed too freely. ... Whether you kissed or not on the first date really meant something in the '50s; now it's irrelevant. We kiss much like we shake the hand of a stranger."

Which brings us to the social kiss, or "air-smack." This type of kiss functions in lieu of a handshake and not infrequently to project a certain image or rapport. The gesture consists of a puckering noise usually made a few inches from the cheek, or merely a light brushing of cheeks with the intention of not mussing anyone's makeup.

This practice thrives particularly well at fund-raisers, galas, receptions, state dinners, airports, campaign trails and Hollywood Variety shows. "Anyone who ventures backstage at the theater or to any reception honoring the arts must in this day and age be prepared to kiss first and converse later," Joanna Powell observed in a Harper's Bazaar article about current fashions in kissing. This kind of kissing is what piqued the indignation of Miss Manners, aka Judith Martin. The etiquette guru has implored her Gentle Readers to return to the civilized handshake greeting, which she laments has become completely devalued by the social kiss. Likewise, cheek-kissing has declined in meaning to the near-neutral emotional content of handshake, she observes disapprovingly.

If you must kiss each other's lips in greeting, it should be "ladies' choice," Miss Manners maintains. A woman should request a kiss by "tilting her face upward without moving it to either side." As Miss Manners sees it the gentleman has no choice but to perform – unless, as is always the gentleman's prerogative, he chooses to kiss the lad on the hand.

Concludes Powell on the subject: "The final step in kissing cleverly is understanding the variety of kisses and choosing them like vintage wines, in tandem with the proper situation." – By Eve Glicksman, published in Chico News and Review, 1990

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Late 17th C. Etiquette in England

By Charles II's reign, a dessert course had developed. Charles loved fruit and was one of the first people in the country to eat a pineapple.  This painting depicts Charles II being presented with a pineapple, a rare and exotic fruit for the time period.

The reduction in the number of servants (in England) after the Restoration led also to a reduction in ceremony during meals: all the panoply of bowing, kissing and kneeling, of sewers, carvers, cupbearers and gentlemen waiters disappeared. The butler absorbed the jobs of the yeomen of the buttery, ewery and pantry, beginning the rise that was to lead to his 19th-century eminence. Footmen, from a lower social class and therefore cheaper, were brought in to wait at less important tables. By the end of the century, they, helped by extra pages, were waiting at the first table under the butler and the under-butler. Both carving and distributing the meat were particular honours reserved for the master of the house or distinguished guests.

Gentlemen were still supposed to know the exact way to carve any dish set before them. Robert May includes a chapter on "The most Exact, or A la Mode Ways of Carving' in his Accomplisht Cook of 1660. The diners helped themselves, or each other (often the gentlemen served the ladies first), on to plates that had been warmed by the fire in an iron frame. 'When serving' said Antoine de Courtin in his book of manners of 1672, 'one must alway give away the best portion and keep the smallest, and touch nothing except with the fork.' Primarily, guests would help themselves to what they could reach (known retrospectively as service à la française): if they wished for something else, a servant was summoned to fetch it, though it was not considered good manners to do this too often.

Antoine de Courtin further instructed the diner to take food only from the part of the dish opposite you; still less should you take the best pieces, even though you might be the last to help yourself. Also, in many places, spoons are brought in with the dishes, and these serve only for taking soup and sauce… You should not eat soup from the dish, but put it neatly of your plate.... To wipe your fingers on your bread, again is very improper ... . Formerly one was permitted to dip one's bread into the sauce, provided only that one had not already bitten it. Nowadays that would be a kind of rusticity. Formerly, one was allowed to take from one's mouth what one could not eat and drop it on the floor.... Now that would be very disgusting.— From the National Trust’s, “The Art of Dining: A History of Cooking and Eating,” by Sara Paston-Williams, 1993

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How Etiquette Evolves

Etiquette is for People by People

Etiquette guidelines are created from the ground up, for people by people, as standardization for navigating certain situations arises. It isn’t declared by any standard maker. It’s not ‘something you can grab hold of’ like a fork or knife, but through time in all cultures, etiquette evolves from social and professional best practices – those actions that are recognized as respectful, considerate, and honest.

Creating Etiquette for People by People

The main business of each of us is to find our better selves and to shoulder responsibility for our actions. Developing habits of character and working to organize the qualities into effective personal lives is everyone’s duty to themselves. 

To aim for etiquette-fulness as a personal goal, in and of itself, is confidence boosting. As habits of kindness are learned and practiced, they become second nature, leaving time to focus on the substance of engaging with others. We end up modeling for and with each other.

Big Back-up Ideas

There are some really big ideas behind etiquette, and these big ideas are the basis of etiquette, regardless of culture. 

• Have and show respect.
• Be thoughtful and considerate.
• Be forthright in all affairs.

These ideas ground what become known as polite, as etiquette-ful. The big ideas are the why’s and the how-to’s that fall under the etiquette-ful umbrella. 

In every culture, greetings are given and accepted. From an early age, children are taught how to physically greet other people, whether that be a handshake or a bow or other known gesture. We learn to make eye contact when communicating and practice it to know how much is too much or too little. 

This learning process is the perfect example of etiquette being for people by people. It is taught person to person. As social creatures living in families, working, and playing together, we teach each other how to temper the passions and, as Adam Smith famously says, “bring our self-love down to what others will go along with.” 

Our own views about etiquette and its importance no doubt change with the times as we embrace traditions and create new ones with our families and friends. We outgrow the silly idea that etiquette is stodgy, stuck-up, and sullen. We realize how important etiquette considerations are in gaining practical skills for personal and professional success. 

When you venture down the road of being “etiquette-ful,” you become a new kind of problem-solver, increasingly able to manage your personal space and remain sensitive to the needs of others.

                                          

Contributor, Candace Smith is a retired, national award-winning secondary school educator, Candace Smith teaches university students and professionals the soft skills of etiquette and protocol. She found these skills necessary in her own life after her husband received international recognition in 2002. Plunged into a new “normal” of travel and formal social gatherings with global leaders, she discovered how uncomfortable she was in many important social situations. After extensive training in etiquette and protocol, Candace realized a markedly increased confidence level in meeting and greeting and dining skills and was inspired to share these skills that will help others gain comfort and confidence in dining and networking situations. Learn more at http://www.candacesmithetiquette.com/

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The Etiquette of Carving

In the 15th century, the art of carving properly at the table, was considered an important skill for men. Most early European cookbooks were more carving instructions than actual recipes. One’s reputation could be judged by how well he ceremoniously carved a roast at a large meal. — “The exact spot to begin carving a roast was governed by elaborate rules with slices from the larger beasts presented on a broad-bladed serving carver, cut into four bite-sized pieces held together by the fatty top strap. This was held in the hand, the pieces were chewed off, then it was thrown to the dogs. A thorough knowledge of carving was considered so important that before the golden spurs of knighthood could be granted, a period of noviciate had to be spent as a carving esquire. Carvers in royal and noble households tended to be aristocrats of lesser rank. A knight carved for a baron, a baron for an earl, an earl for a marquis, and so on. The Earls of Denbigh and Desmond are the Hereditary Grand Carvers of England and the Anstruther’s of that Ilk, the heritable Master Carvers to the Royal Household of Scotland. Such was the social gravitas attached to carving, that The Boke of Kervynge was published in 1500 by Wynkyn de Worde for the benefit of upwardly mobile Tudors at a time when few books were being printed at all.” ~ From the field.co.uk

If your husband complains when confronted with the Thanksgiving turkey - you might tell him that carving is the Art of Noblemen. 

In the Middle Ages, Edward IV of England was served by no less than five Royal Carvers, all noblemen of high degree. 

After the carving, correct etiquette for those times called for a sort of “grab and gobble” technique, without benefit of table cutlery! — Desert Sun, 1952

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Etiquette Helps You Restart

Restart Your Best Self

The decision to restart your best self can be made for a variety of reasons.  Maybe you’ve noticed you might be the person repeating unpleasant things, you don’t like the way you’re coming across to others, or you’d like to perk up your social media presence.

You might sense that you’re not being perceived as the person you want to be: cheerful, gracious, convivial, and respectful of others.  This can feel disappointing.

If you’ve already committed to living by the etiquette-ful code – operating on the principle of sympathy, kindness, and consideration for other people – try making the same commitment to yourself.  What might you do out of kindness for you?  This is a great place to begin when you want to restart your best self.

Find a Source of Inspiration

We all know someone with qualities we want to possess.  Consider those qualities and what your life would look like if you had them.  Perhaps you already do, you simply need to live them more externally.

The most admired people I can think of are friendly, considerate of others, engaging, good listeners, trustworthy, and confident.  They are comfortable being themselves and appreciate other people who have this same quality without judging them.

In your effort to restart your best self, refresh your memory by listing the people who have inspired you.  You might reach out to someone who has served as a source of inspiration and let them know of your gratitude.  

You might also look to a spiritual source of inspiration.  Spend time in meditation and prayer.  Ask for blessing of your renewal and give honest thought to what you most want for yourself.

Let Etiquette Help Restart Your Best Self

Once you have the inspiration for the kind of “best self” you want to be, put it into practice when you interact with others.  Especially if your interactions have been limited.

• Friends or colleagues will enjoy a friendly note, reminding them of how much they mean to you.
• Think about the neighbors and family members who haven’t recently heard your encouraging voice and write, call, or text them just to say hello.
• Offer to schedule a friendly meet-up via teleconference.

Etiquette is your guide to showing your best self when spending time with other people.  Your conscious consideration will be appreciated by everyone and may create opportunities for deeper relationships.  

• Let others go first in conversation.
• Do not interrupt when someone is speaking, and quickly apologize if you do.
• Notice if you’re talking too much about yourself and stop if you are. 
• Yield the right of way in conversation so everyone has a chance to speak.
• Spare the feelings of others by speaking about subjects that aren’t delicate or intrusive or boastful. 
• Open the door for someone or signal that you wish someone to enter the room or go down an aisle before you. 

Etiquette can work as a funnel to slow down thinking before speaking and acting.  It’s a great tool to help you manage your time and gives you the space you need to make the time you spend with others more enjoyable for everyone.  

Become a contagious source of cheer; restart your best self and live by example the ethics of everyday life.  Do this, and you will begin inspiring other people to do the same.

                                          

Our etiquette-ful contributor, Candace Smith is a retired, national award-winning secondary school educator, Candace Smith teaches university students and professionals the soft skills of etiquette and protocol. She found these skills necessary in her own life after her husband received international recognition in 2002. Plunged into a new “normal” of travel and formal social gatherings with global leaders, she discovered how uncomfortable she was in many important social situations. After extensive training in etiquette and protocol, Candace realized a markedly increased confidence level in meeting and greeting and dining skills and was inspired to share these skills that will help others gain comfort and confidence in dining and networking situations. Learn more at http://www.candacesmithetiquette.com/

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