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Sunday, May 4, 2025

Etiquette and Equality

New Zealand Suffragette Political Cartoon from late 1800s 


EQUALITY 


In the qualified sense which no doubt Mr. Jefferson affixed to the term in his own mind, “all men are created free and equal.” The “noble Oracle” himself had long before as explicitly asserted the natural equality of man. In 1739, thirty-seven years before the Declaration of Independence was penned, Lord Chesterfield wrote: “We are of the same species, and no distinction whatever is between us, except that which arises from fortune. For example, your footman and Lizette would be your equals were they as rich as you. Being poor, they are obliged to serve you. Therefore you must not add to their misfortune by insulting or ill- treating them. A good heart never reminds people of their misfortune, but endeavors to alleviate, or, if possible, to make them forget it.”

The writer in Life Illustrated, quoted in a previous chapter, states the case very clearly as follows: “It is in the sacredness of their rights that men are equal. The smallest injustice done to the smallest man on earth is an offense against all men; an offense which all men have a personal and equal interest in avenging. If John Smith picks my pocket, the cause in court is correctly entitled, ‘The PEOPLE versus John Smith.’ The whole State of New York has taken up my quarrel with John, and arrays itself against John in awful majesty; because the pockets, the interests, the rights of a man are infinitely, and therefore equally, sacred. 

“The conviction of this truth is the beginning and basis of the science of republican etiquette, which acknowledges no artificial distinctions. Its leading principle is, that courtesy is due to all men from all men; from the servant to the served; from the served to the servant; and from both for precisely the same reason, namely, because both are human beings and fellow-citizens!”

From the book by Samuel R. Wells, “How to Behave, A Pocket Guide to Republican Etiquette and Guide to Correct Personal Habits,” 1856


🍽️Etiquette Enthusiast, Maura J. Graber, is the Site Editor for the Etiquipedia© Etiquette Encyclopedia

Thursday, April 4, 2024

Etiquette and Respect for Others

We can't get rid of her. We've insulted her, ignored her, done just about everything but she still tags along. What can we do?” — Outrageous behavior on the parts of these three girls! Rudeness is inexcusable behavior to someone new you meet, regardless as to whether or not you wish to develop a friendship. “The Golden Rule,” honesty and showing some respect for others would be the best policy in a situation such as this one. Treat everyone as you would like to be treated.


DOROTHY DIX: We three girls have been friends for years. Recently a new girl came to our school and attached herself to our small group. We can't get rid of her. We've insulted her, ignored her, done just about everything but she still tags along. What can we do? —Dianne

DEAR DIANNE: It's much easier lo travel in a quartet than in a trio. Why be so selective? This girl is lonesome and frightened of her new school and different companions. She needs someone and has chosen ycur particular group as her idea of the best girls in school. Why not live up lo the honor? Be friends to this friendless youngster. Help her over the hurdle of getting accustomed to new surroundings. Encourage her lo overcome her shyness. Give her self-confidence. Some day you, too, may need a friend.— Dorothy Dix, 1958



🍽Etiquette Enthusiast, Maura J. Graber, is the Site Editor for the Etiquipedia© Etiquette Encyclopedia