Take this quiz from Bride's Magazine and see if you're up to the wedding season ahead!
Do you know how to be the perfect guest?
If the first sign of spring is the crocus, the second is just as surely the wedding invitation. Now is the time of year when any day is likely to bring an elegant envelope tucked in with your electric bill, supermarket circular and favorite magazine subscription. So it's a good time to ask: How's your guest etiquette?
True or False:
- Verbal acceptance of a wedding invitation is okay.
- You don't have to send a gift if you don't go to the wedding.
- You should bring the wedding present to the reception.
- If you're dating someone, it's all right to bring him or her to the wedding.
- A female guest shouldn't wear all-black or all-white.
- The last person to be seated in church is the mother of the bride.
- On the receiving line, you “congratulate” the groom, offer “best wishes” to the bride.
- You shouldn't leave the reception before the newlyweds do.
- F– Unless it's a very informal invitation. A formal, engraved invitation should be answered with a brief, handwritten note on a double sheet of fine white note paper. If a response card is provided, use that.
- T– If you're close to the couple, you'll probably want to send a gift, but it's not required.
- F – Except if the gift is a check. Then you can bring it to the wedding and give it to the couple personally. (Make it out to Mr. and Mrs.) Otherwise, send the gift to the bride at her home as soon as possible after you receive the invitation. A check sent before the wedding is made out to the bride.
- F – An invitation is only for those specifically mentioned. Unless it reads “and guest” or “and family,” they only want you.
- T – Although the rules are bending somewhat on this, especially since black is so fashionable now. In general, judge what you should wear by the formality of the invitation. You can rarely go wrong m a suit and tie, for a man, and a street-length dressy party or cocktail dress, for a woman.
- T – This is the signal that the ceremony is about to begin, so if you arrive later, stand unobtrusively at the back unless the ushers direct otherwise. It's best to try to arrive at least 10-15 minutes early.
- T – You could cause offense if you reverse them. Other tips for negotiating the receiving line: Introduce yourself to anyone who isn't certain to know you. (Remember, the whole wedding party is in a bit of a daze by now.) Say something brief and pleasant to parents and other family members.
- T – Although this was truer in the days when the bride and groom always left the reception early, in a shower of rice, to go directly on their honeymoon. These days, some newlyweds stay right until the end of the party, so an alternate rule might be: Don't leave until the cake has been cut and served. Remember to thank the wedding's hostess (usually the bride's mother) when you do go. – Bride’s Magazine, 1984
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