“I know that women’s hats often annoy you more than yours possibly can them. I have been informed of these and all other arguments on the subject before. But you see, I didn't establish the custom. Convention did that and she still favors it.” – Ruth Cameron, 1911
A Few Etiquette “Do’s and Dont’s” for the Masculine Sex
- Never smoke when on the street with a woman.
- Never smoke when in the room with women, no matter how well you know them, without asking their permission.
- When you are smoking, never talk with your pipe between your teeth. Always remove it before speaking.
- Always remove your hat in an elevator where there are women. Yes, I know that an elevator is not so very different from a street car, and men keep their hats on there, and I know that women’s hats often annoy you more than yours possibly can them. I have been informed of these and all other arguments on the subject before. But you see, I didn't establish the custom. Convention did that and she still favors it.
- Never just touch your hat. The true gentleman always lifts it well off his head.
- Never take a woman's arm in the street. If you wish to assist her you should offer her your arm, but that is not customary except at night or if she is aged or infirm.
- When you are with a woman, always get off a car before her, so that you may help her off.
- Never clean your nails or pick your teeth in the presence of your intimate friends any more than you would in public. It is just as unpleasant to them to have to see you as to the general public, and surely you owe them as much consideration. (Will the people who think that warning is not needed, anyway please watch and see how many really decent looking men they see offending that way?)
- Always rise when a woman enters the room where you are calling and remain standing until she is seated.
- In the theater, if an usher helps you find the seat, let the lady precede you. Otherwise you precede her.
- Don't sit in a street car with your feet stretched out in front of you where people will be apt to tumble over them. That is selfish and dangerous, as well as ill bred.
- At the table, always remain standing behind your chair until your hostess is seated. I think it is a charming bit of domestic ceremony when this custom is carried out in the home circle and the father and children remain standing until the mother is seated. – by Ruth Cameron, in The Morning Chat-Chat, 1911
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